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    raverbaby1987 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 14, 2008, 11:28 AM
    Selfish in bed
    I been with my boyfriend for nearly 5yrs and we use to ave good sex life that's all he thinks about is his self now every time we ave sex I got to give him a blowjob first and don't satisfe me that's all he ever says is blowjob I just want to ave sex for a change with out aving to give him a blow job first and I don't even like giving blowjobs it feels like that the only way I get to ave sex I can't talk to him about it because he says women got to satife men and go off on one my sex life is help what can I do?
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    Sep 14, 2008, 11:57 AM
    Don't give him the blowjob. Partners share, it's not just one pleasing the other. He's messing with your head to get what he wants.

    Tell him you're happy to please him, as long as he pleases you first.
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    Sep 14, 2008, 04:50 PM
    You stated you had a good sex life with him in the past, so when did the change happen? Yes, he does sound selfish but have his views about women always been that way? All because he is your boyfriend doesn't mean you have do things you don't want to especially if he don't feel the same when it comes to your needs. I would go on a blowjob ban but it might or might not work since he feels a women must satifisy their man and since you already tried communicating your thoughts about this. Outside the bedroom does he try to control everything else?
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    Sep 14, 2008, 07:52 PM
    Drop him-show him that Men look after their women and Satisfy them EQUALLY!
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    Sep 14, 2008, 08:23 PM
    Sounds to me like if you continue on you will spend your life with a guy you don't like, doing things to him that you don't like to do and not getting to do any of the things that you would like to do. I see no future in a relationship that you have described.
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    Sep 14, 2008, 08:28 PM
    Relationships are about sacrifice and understanding.

    Something your boyfriend obviously lacks.
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    Sep 14, 2008, 10:29 PM
    How old are you?

    You TYPE like you are 13, and your question is very hard to read because of it.

    If you're not willing to ditch the guy, your comeback to him should be "men should please their women, and it's your turn tonight---go down!"
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    Sep 14, 2008, 11:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen
    How old are you?

    You TYPE like you are 13, and your question is very hard to read because of it.

    If you're not willing to ditch the guy, your comeback to him should be "men should please their women, and it's your turn tonight---go down!"
    21 I was rushing
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    Sep 15, 2008, 02:48 AM
    You never know what can happen you need your friends now more then ever
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    Sep 15, 2008, 12:43 PM
    Lifes too short to waste it on someone who cares only about their own pleasure. Drop him and find someone who doesn't have to be begged to give you what you need.
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    Sep 20, 2008, 12:39 PM
    You are too passive while he is abusing you.

    Move on, girl. Get some help about the low opinion you have of yourself so this doesn't happen again. :)
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    Sep 20, 2008, 01:42 PM

    Relationships require talking and also setting boundries for what each person needs. So just say no sometimes, make him give you full pleasure first at times and so on. I would say often we get to this position because one person is more aggressive and the other just agrees too much
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    Sep 22, 2008, 05:07 PM
    5 years? Put him in your rear view mirror. Nothing lost here. No marriage or kids. Just a lame relationship you can now get out of...
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