[nessa_re]

A couple weekends ago on Labor Day weekend and my birthday weekend my boyfriend proposed to me and I said yes. We went the whole weekend with being over the moon happy and in love with each other all the more. Monday(Labor Day) we made the trip to his parents to tell them the news and got back home late. He had an hour trip to go back home and we said our goodbyes. He's in college while I'm a senior in high school. I love him more than anything in the world and I do want to marry him. But I got home and was getting ready for bed when my parents asked me if they thought the ring was real. It is a rather large ring that would originally cost over $1000 and I never thought anything of it. I got into my room after telling my parents yeah its real and he wouldn't not tell me if it wasn't. And I called him to talk to him and complain about what my parents had just put upon me. And when I said that they didn't think it was real there was a long silence and I asked him if it was and he said no. that does not bother me that it isn't real what bothers me is that he made me look like a complete fool thinking it was a real diamond. It is cubic zirconia. He then told me the price of te ring and that didn't bother me at all. The ring had been $60 and I was fine with that as I know he is a college student and doesn't really have that much money. But what does bug me is that he spends over $200 on many items for his playstation 2 and that is stuff that he will maybe get 15 or 20 uses out of and forget the rest of his life but he can't spend at least $100 on something that is supposed to represent the rest of our lives. I know it shouldn't be about the ring and if its real or not but he's always preaching about the traditional thing to do when getting engaged or married. He says he will buy me a real one sometime but I think if he would have just boughten me one now he could have saved $60 and a bunch of questions from our families as to why I have a different ring on. Just someone spread some light on this and help me to understand it or something please

[JAMIET]

The ring is only symbol... it doesn't have to be the only one for the rest of your lives together. I'm sure you have enough bills being college students to have another financial burden thrust upon you. Who's to say that he can save $ and maybe in 5-10 years, get you the ring of your dreams? It's the vows and love that count the most. My Mother and Father were married 43 yrs before she died and the real diamond ring he could afford, she didn't wear.. instead, she went out and bought a huge cubic zirconia ring and was quite happy with it. It only matters what you both think... no one else. Be happy and good luck to you both!

[MayfairLady]

You are a very lucky girl to have found a man who you love "more than anything". You were blissfully happy before you found out the price of the ring... finding out the price has taken away your happiness and replaced it with what? If he wanted to hide anything from you he could have told you it was real and that it cost £any amount of money. He has been honest with you and that my friend is a very rare quality and one to be cherished. The ring IS real (maybe not a £1000 diamond but so what) and a symbol of his commitment to you, it WAS perfect, but now its not? Be happy and thankful for what you have as many people never find love, honesty or get given a ring at all.

[talaniman]

The ring is as real as 60 bucks could buy, and its nobody else's business, he could have told you though, as I imagine the embarrassment you had to endure. Remind him about honesty in this young relationship.

[Marily]

Faithfulness, happiness, loyalty and treating the person you love with outmost respect has more value than a diamond ring ;)