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talaniman · Jul 7, 2008, 08:20 PM

Forget the past, and embrace the future, as an opportunity to be happy, and fulfilled.

bigdee · Jul 7, 2008, 08:31 PM

Thanks guys... I know I need to move on. I'm almost there...

Romefalls19 · Jul 8, 2008, 06:13 AM

Forget the past, you need no more reminders, lay it to rest. The present is what you are in, is she there? Nope... Is this girl? Yea, follow the path as the journey in life is more exciting than the destination.

bigdee · Jul 15, 2008, 07:54 AM

So it's been been about 2.5 months since I got dumped by my ex-GF. Was rough at first but these days I'm doing pretty well. After a few small text messages/e-mails to work through some logistics issues, we've said all is needed to be said and It's been 2 weeks of complete NC so far. I can't say I've totally moved on and while not a day goes where I think of her at least once, I don't really dwell on her all that much anymore and have just been living my life. I've been watching a lot of movies of various sorts and what has been a little hard/annoying is all these movies that deal with love/relationships in them! So many of them portray it as a rocky road where the couple splits up and then after attempted NC, The guy (most of the time it is the guy) gets his eureka moment and decides he cannot give up on that one special person that easy and decides he is going to fight for all he's worth to win her back despite her initial rebuffs. And of course in many of the cases his persistence is rewarded and she either "sees the light" or is overwhelmed with his refusal to give up (which to me looks a lot like stalking). I got to say watching these movies just makes it tough to keep NC and move on gracefully!!

Damn Hollywood (though it's not just Hollywood, they are all like that around the world!)

Boristheblade · Jul 15, 2008, 12:27 PM

Lol I agree, my friend draggeeeedd me to go and see the sex and the city film, and I thought it would be full of cringey not funny female humour (sorry women but most of us are just NOT funny) I didn't go to sleep as I suspected and it hit me like a TRUCK, I cried afterwards and desired nothing but my ex to have a revelation and ring me etc etc *sigh*

starlite1 · Jul 15, 2008, 12:35 PM

Hi Boris,

Oh the same thing happened to me. I found myself getting teary/misty in the theatre watching SATC. I loved it though, I thought it was good (especially the Manolo's :-) ), but wow, it hit home.

Boristheblade · Jul 15, 2008, 12:46 PM

It was an amazing film, very realistic--- but that's the problem, really hit home! X

Romefalls19 · Jul 15, 2008, 12:56 PM

Watch movies like Bad Boys, Bad Boys 2... Action movies will be your friend! Don't watch the love movies, of if anything watch "The Break Up"... That is a good movie

bigdee · Jul 15, 2008, 01:22 PM

Rome - it's not like I'm going to love movies all the time... it seems like every movie of some sort deals with some relationship issues that of course gets resolved at the end. I watched Hellboy to the other night which I wouldn't call a love movie but guess what? Hellboy and Liz are having relationship issues in the movie which gets resolved at the end. Maybe not the best example but it's the last one I saw and it kind of hit home because of the other issues involved in their relationship... :-P

talaniman · Jul 15, 2008, 01:37 PM

Dinosaurs eating people, no sex, romance, or even nudity!!

Romefalls19 · Jul 15, 2008, 02:16 PM

What about if a dinosaur is eating a naked person?

talaniman · Jul 15, 2008, 02:47 PM

Don't you go to movies? The dinosaurs are always naked, not the people. Pay attention!!

Romefalls19 · Jul 15, 2008, 02:50 PM

Then shouldn't those movies be rated "R"! This darn Hollywood critics

George_1950 · Jul 15, 2008, 02:54 PM

Originally Posted by bigdee

So it's been been about 2.5 months since I got dumped by my ex-GF. Was rough at first but these days I'm doing pretty well. After a few small text messages/e-mails to work through some logistics issues, we've said all is needed to be said and It's been 2 weeks of complete NC so far. I can't say I've totally moved on and while not a day goes where I think of her at least once, I don't really dwell on her all that much anymore and have just been living my life. I've been watching a lot of movies of various sorts and what has been a little hard/annoying is all these movies that deal with love/relationships in them! So many of them portray it as a rocky road where the couple splits up and then after attempted NC, The guy (most of the time it is the guy) gets his eureka moment and decides he cannot give up on that one special person that easy and decides he is going to fight for all he's worth to win her back despite her initial rebuffs. And of course in many of the cases his persistence is rewarded and she either "sees the light" or is overwhelmed with his refusal to give up (which to me looks a lot like stalking). I gotta say watching these movies just makes it tough to keep NC and move on gracefully!!!

Damn Hollywood (though it's not just Hollywood, they are all like that around the world!)

Great observation! I saw on recently, Definitely, Maybe. The guy is shown the way to true love by his 8 year old daughter. The only two movies where the guy has a pair is Rhett Butler in Gone With The Wind and the guy in Bridges in Madison County. I'm certain there are others.

talaniman · Jul 15, 2008, 03:31 PM

I'm certain there are others.

Dracula never had a problem with the ladies! It was the jealous guys always doing him in!

George_1950 · Jul 15, 2008, 03:47 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Dracula never had a problem with the ladies! It was the jealous guys always doing him in!

I ain't talking about the pair in his mouth, you know.

jiltedgirl · Jul 15, 2008, 03:47 PM

Agreed! I cringe when it comes to today's romantic movies and the entirety of the "chick flick" genre. The idealization of love frankly pisses me off. All it does is help perpetuate (consciously or not) unrealistic expectations for those people trapped in relationships.

2 films about relationships and love that I did enjoy, however, were Closer and Annie Hall.:D

Lovelee · Jul 15, 2008, 06:52 PM

Never watch a romantic movie when you are going through a breakup! It makes you feel awful afterwards. Heck, even listening to love songs can tug at your heart string.

friend4u178 · Jul 15, 2008, 08:56 PM

Just remember that these movies are "Fiction"

We live in "Non Fiction"

bigdee · Jul 17, 2008, 04:06 PM

Originally Posted by friend4u178

Just remember that these movies are "Fiction"

We live in "Non Fiction"

Very true.

"I said "If love has these conditions,
I don't understand those songs you love."
She said "This is not a love song
This isn't fantasyland."

-Rush (from the song Cold Fire)