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GorgeousAmber · Jul 13, 2008, 02:31 PM

Okay well first off I am 15 and my ex boyfriend Jordan has just turned 17.. I've known him for about a year now , and I really fell hard for this guy , he asked me out and 2 weeks later dumped me and not even a week passes and he got with someone whom of which I thought was my best friend , but Jordan and I still talk and we might try hanging out but than he said he's scared about making a mistake.. and cheating on his girlfriend so I'm curious of the fact if he still has feelings for me , I just really want this guy back , I really really liked him and it's not like his new girlfriend is skinnier or prettier than me even Jordan says he doesn't know what she has that I don't..
So if anyone has any idea's.. on how to win his heart back let me know :)

N0help4u · Jul 13, 2008, 03:33 PM

Sounds like a confused teen age boy with hormones.
I wouldn't give him a second thought in the boyfriend department until he got some direction in his own life.

Alty · Jul 13, 2008, 03:35 PM

You're 15, move on, someone else will come along soon.

Good luck.

Simple Asian · Jul 13, 2008, 07:39 PM

move on... ^^ sorry that we being so harsh and telling you to move on..

but as a guy that move on without even a second thought ? He wouldn't think about going back with you anyway right ?

I am sorry... but move on.. life is hard

GorgeousAmber · Jul 13, 2008, 09:45 PM

Kay , thanks peopleee :] , can't win every guys heart rightt (N)

JBeaucaire · Jul 14, 2008, 05:20 AM

... and stop naming every guy you date for a couple of weeks as "your boyfriend." He never earned that title at all. It's like calling you a Princess because you visited Disneyland for a day.

And hey, it's not just about winning some guy's heart... YOU are the prize. YOU are the catch. How about a little "princess-ish" thinking here on your part? How about wanting a life where in your story, the prince pursues YOU?

deadly361 · Jul 14, 2008, 02:41 PM

I agree with them all. If he broke up with u so fast and then when out with you friend he must not have liked you very much. A guy would do anything to get you to droll all over them. Just let him go.

GorgeousAmber · Jul 14, 2008, 09:11 PM

JBeaucaire , I understand where your coming from , but did you have to say it so straight up and kind of "rude" remember I said I' knew this guy for a year.. and I had liked him for a while.. it's not like I started dating some RANDOM guy than called him my BOYFRIEND right away , yeah know?

talaniman · Jul 14, 2008, 10:31 PM

He dumped you once, went with someone else, and you want him back? Aren't you afraid he will dump you again? Leave him alone, and get someone new. Or are you trying to get revenge on him, or his new g/f, who happens to be a former friend? What are you trying to prove here?

ylaira · Jul 14, 2008, 11:12 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

He dumped you once, went with someone else, and you want him back? Aren't you afraid he will dump you again? Leave him alone, and get someone new. Or are you trying to get revenge on him, or his new g/f, who happens to be a former friend? What are you trying to prove here?

Your BF is a teenager and in "exploration of his youth". Don't take him seriously or try to win him back or else you will regret being used.

JBeaucaire · Jul 15, 2008, 04:18 AM

You're misreading the tone of my email. I'm standing in front of you like any close friend desparately trying to convince you that you are special and need to find someone who thinks you're special enough to pursue. Reread my note THAT way and you'll hopefully get the tone right.

Knowing someone for a year doesn't mean "intimately familiar with someone for a year", I read that as "I knew him somewhat for a year, then we tried going out for 2 weeks and it ended quite abruptly."

But in the end, I still stand behind my suggestion that in your particular life/fairy tale, shouldn't there be princes pining over YOU? Regardless of how long you were acquainted with this guy, you really only went out a few times before he threw in the towel.

Some could say he did very little wrong, necessarily, and that this is simply a case of a relationship that was never going to be. Can't it just be that? Just because it was his idea to not pursue it doesn't mean it was wrong the idea. Does that make sense?

I'm not trying to be harsh, but words on a computer screen often read that way. Meanwhile, it is what it is, and I'd hate for you to spend more time fretting over this than is required for you to learn from it what you can and move on healthily.

He clearly not only decided he wasn't interested, he didn't view your year of knowing each other even warranted you being let down easy or anything. So, I think maybe the year you've known each other is still was not an important period of deep familiarization, else he surely would've behaved better, no?

hjpan · Jul 15, 2008, 07:17 PM

*sigh* Another horny teenage guy who wants to get down....

GorgeousAmber · Jul 16, 2008, 12:06 PM

talaniman"He dumped you once, went with someone else, and you want him back? Aren't you afraid he will dump you again? Leave him alone, and get someone new. Or are you trying to get revenge on him, or his new g/f, who happens to be a former friend? What are you trying to prove here?" I am not trying to prove anything , and I am definitely not trying to get revenge on either of them.. the only reason I'm so attached to him is because we went farther than we should have and he told me he was serious and REALLY wanted to be with me , and I believed him..

GorgeousAmber · Jul 16, 2008, 12:14 PM

JBeaucaire , I am very sorry for the way I took your last message , it's just Jordan confessed to liking me last summer and he kissed me down by a river and I guess I just thought 'US' could happen this summer and we could give it a try because some stuff went down last summer and it we couldn't get together in that sense .

I left a note a while back giving the choices between my 8 month relationship with Tarik (who was not even a virgin) or Jordan who it seemed like we had chemistry at the moment but I guess I was fooled.. and it's really hard for me to let go of that because he kissed me when I was still dating Tarik than me not being able to feel the same way about Tarik afterwards which had put me in a very tough situation. Therefor I had chosen Jordan because people who answered my question said I should have chose Jordan over Tarik. And Jordan and I had gone farther then we should have , because I felt something , we didn't have sex , but we WERE pretty close , and please do not think of me as a 'Slut' I just felt REALLY safe with jordan than he let me down.

ylaira · Jul 16, 2008, 01:25 PM

He dumped you to be with your friend. Nobody here will ever think that he will dump her for you.If you weigh to him more, he will not ditch you in a first place, no matter what!

I hate to even think that he got so close to you because he wanted a bridge for his new girl which happened to be your best friend.[B][U]Don't make him a lucky dude to hang with your friend and having you at the same time. He should only choose one and if he can't ditch your friend to be with you (which I believe won't happen), just think He likes her ONLY, just accept it so move on.

talaniman · Jul 16, 2008, 03:39 PM

we went farther than we should have and he told me he was serious and REALLY wanted to be with me , and I believed him..

Kind of obvious he LIED to you, to get what he wanted. Probably is lying to your friend too. Forget him.

brkfstatiffs · Jul 18, 2008, 02:17 PM

You are so young. I know it's hard to believe it now, but there are a fish full of guys out there. The right one will be into you for you, and you won't have to second guess anything. 2 weeks is nothing! I promise you, have fun with your girlfriends, tell your mom to take you shopping, - whatever to get your mind off it and in 10 years from now, even 2 years from now, you will look back and laught that you feel so hard for a guy who wasn't worth it in the first place.