[otisblue2]

What's going on people this is my first time on the site but I came to you guys because I figure you can help me. I'll say probably a month ago I meet this very beautiful young lady and she got my full attention but to make long story short we kind of got into each other. We never had sex and I kissed her 2 times in one day. Sounds good but this is where its about to get hard for 2 years she had an boyfriend now I don't want to be a homewrecker but she said I already was I don't know what that is supposed to mean but she said it she also said that she was having very strong feelings for me saying she is going to break up with her boyfriend. But for some odd reason I have the feeling that she is not going to do it she tells me she wants me she doesn't have the spark for her boyfriend anymore but she is still with this guy. She also told me that she was going to make up her mind on Friday what's today Friday and I haven't heard anything yet. When I talk to her about our future she says that she can see us being together for a very long time (forever)and I also feel the same way she is a virgo I'm a cancer and we just have that certain connection I told her I love because I really do and she really loves me what should I do I'm so confused should I wait to see what happens with her and her boyfriend or should I step out of the relationship

[s_cianci]

Back off until she breaks up with her boyfriend. Make it clear to her that you will not continue to see each other until that happens. If she has the feelings for you that she claims to have then she'll have no trouble breaking up with him to be with you. If she won't break up with him then that lets you know where you stand.

[MissBobSkeleton]

Hmmmm this is a hard one, well for a start why would she call you a home wrecker, if she's not happy with her partner then you have done nothing wrong but fall in love, but to be honest it sounds like she's just having you letting you hang which isint fair, maybe she's finding it hard to leave him or maybe she's so settled that she doesn't want to leave someone she's comfortable with even if she doesn't have that spark with him, if she's just leaving you hanging there the maybe it just isint worth it and I know its hard when your in love but there are other people who will love you and won't leave you not knowing what's going on, if she does leave him then go you and I hope you two are very happy together.

[chris08]

I went through an identical phase with a girl I met 2 years ago. She had a boyfriend and kept telling everyone she was going to leave him for me, so I waited and waited. I then couldn't keep this going anymore so I asked her straight is it me or him? And she said she couldn't hurt her boyfriend even though she knew I'd be a 100 times better. (job, car etc.) She was stringing me along, and she wouldn't stop phoning and texting saying ' don't be mad at me, I don't want to lose you as a friend' It's all bullsh*t so just be careful. I could be wrong don't forget, but this story caught my eye so I just thought I'd tell you what happened to me. DON'T WAIT AROUND FOR HER. LEAVE HER TO DECIDE, AND REMEMBER NC!

[statictable]

You are the kite on a string which extends from her left hand. If you could only see she's holding another spool of string with her other hand. These people are not so rare and have been around for thousands of years. They feed on "sparks" and when she no longer feels that spark she simply pulls out another kite and gives it flight which brings on a brand new fire. Cut that string and see who falls the farthest.

[jolienoire]

Just my opinion, I don't think you should get involved with her, I say this because you realize she would be leaving this guy for you which is a already unhealthy because of the fact that she has committed some form of infidelity to her boyfriend by allowing herself to fall for you. Secondly you will be on the rebound, when you swing from one unstable branch to another you may have a tough landing. When people break up with someone they need a break to find themselves, it is not wise to leave one relationship to another without getting over the first one. It may not work.. You might not even trust her, because if she did this to this man who is to say she won't do it to you. I know we all feel it won't happen to me because she/he loves me so much... So think about what you really want, what if she leaves him for you? And you realize that it was so much better when she was with him, the chase is always better than the catch... I strongly advice you move on...

[otisblue2]

The reason its so hard for me to leave is because 3 years ago was my last time I had a girlfriend and when we broke up I was so hurt. I didn't get involved in any relations with girls. Then out of the blue she caught my eye treated me with care like she reALLY DOES LOVE ME I ask her some things like do you think the same thing will happen when were together and she says no because she now knows where it can lead to so she wouldn't get involved she really does love me and I'm so in love with her when we kissed it sent shockwaves through my body (first kiss all over again) I haven't had a kiss in 3 years

[jolienoire]

Well all I can say is that if you do get into a relationship with her, take your time, I think because you have not dated in years it has made you needy. And because you already expressed that your last relationship left you hurt and not wanting to date, you should definitely take your time, and if you are to become involved don't make this woman the whole focus of your happiness.. Again take your time, and prepare yourself, because this woman seems she constantly needs some spark in her relationship so you will always have to make sure you continue to keep her happy at all times, because if not she may be on to the next.. be careful take your time..

[otisblue2]

Thank you so much you really are making me feel better

[otisblue2]

She says that she wants me always want to be with me doesn't feel love in her relationship with her boyfriend but she feels love with me. What am I to expect

[Boringplum]

Without having all the pertinent information (how serious she is with her boyfriend, how long they've been together, the actual circumstances of your relationship with her (friends turned lovers, etc.)), my quick answer is no, she will not leave her boyfriend for you.

Do you really want to be with someone that is unfaithful to their current relationship, whether she feels love in it or not? Why can't she just be an adult and sever that bond so that she can come to you freely and honestly, if that is what she really wants? And how soon after you started dating would she be crying on someone else's shoulder about you?

I'd be asking myself all these questions, were I in your shoes right now.

[Miss Sparkle]

If she really loves you and wants to be with you, then shel split from this guy

[otisblue2]

I'm a cancer she's a virgo we act act like we are just right with each other like 2 puzzle parts

[jolienoire]

Hey I am a virgo we go great with cancers!! I actually dated a cancer guy but he became to clingy and it annoyed me, but they are very caring affectionate people!

[Miss Sparkle]

I don't think star signs are an indication of how perfect two people are for each other. It doesn't matter if your signs match perfectly

[BMI]

Ever hear the saying opposites attract? Ever see the SEinfeld episode where Jerry dates someone EXACTLTY like him?

Go slow and give it time.

[otisblue2]

She has an boyfriend been going with him for 2 years and she told me that she hasn't liked a guy since she had her boyfriend then she says that I come along and still her heart make her feel different towards her boyfriend and she has stronger feelings for me I know I'm in love with her but what is it for me is she in love or is she in lust

[otisblue2]

I know this may sound crazy but my bestfriends boyfriend doesn't love her and I've been playing the role of berstfriend because I really like her and I'm trying to show her that I am a lot better than her boyfriend. The thing is that her boyfriend cheated on her once before and she just found out today that he's cheating on her again now I'm asking two questions 1.what should she do should she leave him or take a break from him 2. should I move in and make my move or just continue PLAYING best friend

[peggyhill]

Well, if he's cheating on her (and has in the past) then she should dump him. But, that's her decision to make. You can't tell her what to do. Just tell her that she has to look at the facts and his history and make the decision that is right for her. Don't move in and make a pass at her, at least not yet. You can still be there to support her and be her friend. IF she decides to break up with him, then she will need some time to heal from the hurt. After she seems to be getting over it and some time has gone by, then maybe you could tell her that your feelings for her go beyond those of friendship. Don't take advantage of someone who is feeling hurt right now. She might be emotionally vulnerable right now, but that's why she needs some time. Then, later, she will realize that even though you had feelings for her back then, you gave her the time and space she needed to make a decision about her feelings for you. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, she will be glad that you didn't try to move in when she was on the rebound and she will respect you for it. Hope this helps!

[statictable]

Be her friend and be supportive as she hopefully has enough "brights" to cancel this guy. Hold on to your feelings until she is completely over her relationship.