[ch00ch00]

:confused: my girlfriend comes back from one week vaction and out of no where doesn't want to kiss or do anything above that. I ask her wats wrong and she clames nuthen is wrong she just doest want to kiss all the time bt its more like once a week!! I don't exspect cheating but I don't no what other reason there is! :(

[ChihuahuaMomma]

How old are the two of you?

[ch00ch00]

She's 18 and I'm 19

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Perhaps she wants to get close to you in an emotional place before physically.

[Chery]

Maybe she thinks the only reason you want to be with her is for kissing and such. How about not putting any pressure on her in that area and just go out and have some fun and take walks and talk about other things.

Sometimes, when a girl thinks the only thing a guy wants is physical closeness, she feels she's not respected in any other area and that can make her sad and even mad.

Send her a flower and ask her out to somewhere public and take her home afterwards without 'grabbing' her - it might surprise her and give her another impression of you.

By the way, did you even ask her how her vacation was and what she did and actually listen?

Good luck.

A girl likes to be respected for her ideas and other thoughts on life - not just kissing, etc.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

I must spread reputation to others before giving some to Chery again. DARN. Great advice though.

[happy_jester]

Perhaps she wants to get close to you in an emotional place before physically.

As "ChihuahuaMomma" has said,there is far too much physical,on your part
{"ch00ch00"}

Get to know your girlfriend in a more intellectual way and,I'm sure
She will notice & be grateful :)

Also,the possibility is that your relationship may move on to an even deeper level
Than it was before {but DON'T RUSH}.

[ch00ch00]

Well I've done all thoes things I would text message her everyday while she was on vaction and ask her what and how she was doing! I've tried several times to get her to go out any where she wanted and every time she says she bizzy. Which is very confusing considering she does not have a job or atend school or do anything around the house. And yes I listen to every word she tells me even thigs she don't remember telling me.I tried to ask her if she wanted me not to kiss her or do anything above that and she was mad/sad and told me no! Be fore she went on vaction she would be the one that always wanted to kiss now she doent want to do anything

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Do you think she DID find someone else or realized that you aren't the right person for her. And she is trying to let you down "easy"?

[ChihuahuaMomma]

It kind of sounds like she is pushing you away so that the break-up will be easier.

[ch00ch00]

Well I mean I asked her if she wanted to take a break and if she felt the same about me she always says yea that she loves me and doent want to be with any one else. And I asked her if we should break up and she starts to cry and tells me that she doesn't thk I love her no more this has happened about 2 or 3 times.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Ask her what is really going on. Have you asked her why she doesn't want to kiss anymore?

[ch00ch00]

But she tells me she wants to be with me for the rest of her life and never wants to be with any one else why would she tell me these thing if she wanted to break up??

[ch00ch00]

Yes I have she just says she doesn't want to kis all the time bt we only kis like twice a week sense we only see each other maby twice a week! There's one thing I just thought about when we first started dateing I had an infection in my body but it went away and that was over three months ago! She just got the same infection about 3 weeks ago and thks she got it 4rm me! And that was around the same time she went on her vaction I wonder if she thks I have something else and she woriied she could get it

[ChihuahuaMomma]

What type of infection?

And your story is changing slightly, first you say she hardly wants to kiss you, and then you said you kiss every time you see each other. Which is it? And this has been a fairly short relationship, so I think you are fretting over nothing, and creating things to justify things in your head.

[happy_jester]

I asked her if we should break up and she starts to cry and tells me that she doesnt thk i love her no more this has happend about 2 or 3 times.

"ch00ch00" you ask why does she want to break up. Why do you ask this (?? ),as it seems clear to me,that (as I've quoted you,above) she starts to cry and tells you that she doesn't thk that you love her any more.

It would seem,that she DOESN'T want to break up with you,but really wants to be
Reassured that you still LOVE her.

Do you still love her,& are you willing to tell her so?

[ch00ch00]

What I meant to say is be for her vaction we would kiss al the time now its like twice a week! But maby its just nuthing and I worry too much

[ch00ch00]

Well yes I still love her I put up with so much from this girl! I tell her I love her every time we on the phone or in person, myspac etc when ever I get the chance I tell her

[happy_jester]

I put up with so much from this girl!!

Ok,you love her & you've told her so :) I've quoted you as saying "I put up with so much from this girl!!"

Have you ever realised,& told her so,that it's a privilege to have her? After all she has done SO much for you!! :cool:

[ch00ch00]

Well I told her she is the best girlfriend I ever had and that I'm lucky to have her in my life! But I don't want to tell her stuff like that all the time because I get worrid she mite take advantage of that because she told she has be fore in the past