Has the "no contact" rule worked for you with an ex?
Did they start contacting you after a period you didn't? I'm wondering if this really makes an ex start trying to talk to you and want you back because they miss you. A lady I know who has five daughters told me that used to happen to her girls each time they experienced a breakup, and it seems to be part of a strategy all these Internet "love gurus" talk about.
It seems effective, because if you don't get any "I miss you" type of calls, then at least you're well on your way to heal. I just want to know if it's actually helped someone re-start a relationship.
By the way, I'm 21, and he's 28. The breakup was rash and for reasons that can be easily fixed. I think the problem mainly lies with him, which is why I want to cool it for a month and avoid calling him or texting. He is scared of becoming too emotionally involved with someone, and has a hard time receiving love and affection. I'm his first real, normal relationship (just friends with benefits and infatuations well before me) and everything was great. There were a few little things, but there always are in relationships.