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My boyfriend wants me to have sex w him he says he will wear protection should I have sex w him

How old are you? Sex is for love! If you love him and wear protection your fine! But you really really REALLY have to love him because you don't want to be on 16 and pregnant!

How old are you and the boy?

I went back to read all of your threads,and I'm going to make a guess at your age...

13/14?

Would that be about right.

Whatever your age,if you have to ask should you or should you not have sex,the answer is always no.

If you have to ask,your not sure.

And as I'm guessing your underage,my answer would still be no.

There is plenty of time for boys and sex,give yourself a childhood first,have fun with your friends,get good grades.

Give yourself a chance to grow up before to have to make adult decisions that will effect your life.

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No. You shouldn't have sex, unless you're physically, mentally, financially and emotionally ready to have a child.

You do realize that no birth control is 100% effective, right?

The fact is, there are many people that have used 3 or more methods of birth control at the same time, and they still became pregnant.

Are you ready to be a mother? Can you support yourself and a child?

If not, than don't have sex. It's that simple.

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Originally Posted by hallie78

how old are you? sex is for love! If you love him and wear protection your fine! But you really really REALLY have to love him because you dont want to be on 16 and pregnant!

No form of birth control is 100% effective.

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Originally Posted by icygurl

if you think your ready and you really love him then go for it but make sure to always use protection

The reason there are age of consent laws is that teenagers are generally not competent to know when they are ready.

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Originally Posted by rollie-pollie

my bf wants me to have sex w him he says he will wear protection should i have sex w him

NO, NO , NO

No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are financially, physically and emotionally ready to have a child. No form of protection is 100%. Sex is not recreation. Its something to be shared by two people who have formed a deep and committed relationship to each other. If you boyfriend cares about you and respects you, he won't pressure you.

Sex does not mean love, love is an emotion and means you spend time together, talk and let love grow. There is always time for sex,

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

NO, NO , NO

No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are financially, physically and emotionally ready to have a child. No form of protection is 100%. Sex is not recreation. Its something to be shared by two people who have formed a deep and committed relationship to each other. If you boyfriend cares about you and respects you, he won't pressure you.

I fully agree with this post, too many people both young and old rush into sex and they are not ready for it. If you are questioning it, most likely you already know that you are not ready for it so don't do it. I hope this helps. Take care

You are not married so nothing is certain. If you have sex with him today and he breaks up with you tomorrow, there's nothing you can do. It would not be worth it. You're virginity is something special. You can only give it once so give to the one person you will spend the rest of your life with, your husband.

Are you a vergin that's the real question if yes how long have you been dating 2 or 3 years and do you love him? If no and its just the controception then you can get a contriceptive tube that will make sure you won't have kids for 3 years or ask a nurse gp or your lacal chemist or your parents for other tips and also I don't think the child bith is the problem.

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Originally Posted by familylovers

r u a vergin thats the real question if yes how long have you been dating 2 or 3 years and do you love him? if no and its just the controception then you can get a contriceptive tube that will make sure you wont have kids for 3 years or ask a nurse gp or your lacal chemist or your parents for other tips and also i dont think the child bith is the problem.

What? :mad:

This is a teen, probably only 13 or 14 years old, and you're saying she should have sex?

Contraception, no matter what type, is not 100%. I doubt very much that a young teen is ready to be a mother. :mad:

I do know what its like to be a mother I have fostered many unwanted baby's and know what its like I have been an an aunt since I was 13 and have looked after them as well like they were my own thank you very much

you're saying she should have sex?
I'm not saying she should have sex its her life her choice

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Originally Posted by familylovers

you're saying she should have sex?
im not saying she should have sex its her life her choice

You're not discouraging it. How old are YOU? This op SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX.:mad:

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Originally Posted by familylovers

im not saying she should have sex its her life her choice

No, depending on her age its NOT her choice.

Rollie-Pollie... You saw what familylovers response was. She says she has fostered many babies. I think you would not like being pregnant and having a child in foster care.

Don't have sex. Some babies who are born to young teenagers will end up in Foster care. The mothers are too young to raise them, so someone else gets paid to do it.
Ifyou wait until you are old enough , you won't be sorry.
Be responsible. Wait.

You can have sex with this guy. Fall pregnant, He will leave you and you will have to either raise the child choose to have an abortion or give it up for adoption by yourself.

Then struggle for many years with the fact you lost your virginity to him. You could also struggle raising it or thinking maybe I should have kept it.

Then one day you find a guy who treats you right and cares for you and you regret losing your virginity to this boy.

Boys come and go. Don't waste something so precious on someone disposable.

What's the rush to have sex when you're so young? You have the rest of your adult life to wrestle with this kind of drama...

Sex and emotion go hand in hand for women. It's so difficult not to attach and get emotionally involved with a man once you have made love. How can a GIRL/child (or woman/child, if you're an older teen) possible manage that kind of emotional rollercoaster. It's just too hard. It's just not worth it!

Please don't rush into having sex. There are NO DO OVERS... plus there is no guarantee that he'll be your boy friend afterwards. In fact, statistically the boy DUMPS the girl after the sex is had... so please think hard about this decision. No do over's... :(

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Originally Posted by familylovers

you're saying she should have sex?
im not saying she should have sex its her life her choice

We are talking about a child here? Did you read the question? It was written by a confused child.
Why in the world are you saying if she wants to have sex it's her right?
She's not even old enough to drive a car, let alone have sex. She's probably still in middle school.

You don't want to have sex with this boy, don't. You're too young anyway. You don't have sex just because some one wants to. It's your body not his. Tell him NO!

Sex isn't anything special. You will give yourself to him then he will leave. What will you have ? Zero, nothing. I have a good friend and she has sex with a close friend and they had feelings and he wasn't a virgin and she was and she doesn't regret it because they have a bond. Well now no you should
Not. I
Know the idea of having sex is amazing and
Romantic and it would make
Him happy and you want
To
Experience it too. No you should not. Really trust me. Please trust me. Being a
Virgin is a beautiful thing and you want
To
Give yourself to
Him? You can say no.&if he still tries and you say no he might dump you. Don't do it.&if
You do you will see what will happen. I'm
Not saying it's a sin. Do
It and know you won't be hurt. My friend knew she won't and when you have that gut feeling go for
It.
If you want a parents view point talk to
Yours if they are very protective try 2 most likely they won't open up depends. But
Don't do it without an adult backing you up. Mayb a aunt or someone you can trust.
Good luck :-)

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Originally Posted by CHRISTINA7

Sex isn't anything special. You will give urself to him then he will leave. What will you have ? Zero, nothing. I have a good friend and she has sex with a close friend and they had feelings and he wasn't a virgin and she was and she doesn't regret it becuz they have a bond. Well now no you should
Not. I
Know the idea of having sex is amazing and
Romantic and it would make
Him happy and you want
To
Experience it too. No you should not. Really trust me. Please trust me. Being a
Virgin is a beautiful thing and you want
To
Give yourself to
Him? You can say no.&if he still tries n u say no he might dump you. Don't do it.&if
You do you will see what will happen. I'm
Not saying it's a sin. Do
It and know you won't be hurt. My friend knew she won't and when you have that gut feeling go for
It.
If you want a parents view point talk to
Yours if they r very protective try 2 most likely they won't open up depends. But
Don't do it without an adult backing you up. Mayb a aunt or someone you can trust.
Good luck :-)

Christina no chat or text speak on this site.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

We are talking about a child here? Did you read the question? It was written by a confused child.
Why in the world are you saying if she wants to have sex it's her right?
She's not even old enough to drive a car, let alone have sex. She's probably still in middle school.

You don't want to have sex with this boy, don't. You're too young anyway. You don't have sex just because some one wants to. It's your body not his. Tell him NO!

Exactly.

If you are 13 or 14... I'm 14 and I think you should wait. I know in all the shows and movies they support teenage sex but don't do it. All it does is lead to kids, infections, and heartbreaks. Its really not worth it! Good Luck! Do what you think is right!

OK I'm 16 now you all its been to years and thanks to all those who said I should at LEAST u were not negative and to the person who said I don't have a choice in it well sorry to say I did so haha and to the girl who said she was 14 thanks for your input

And too late with the pregnant part I wanted to be and now I am and familylover your right it was MY M. Y. choice

Do you have the finances to take care of this child? Do you have the education to get a job to support this child? Does the father of this child have a job?

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Originally Posted by rollie-pollie

and too late with the pregnant part I wanted to be and now I am and familylover ur right it was MY M. Y. choice

You're 16, you're pregnant, and you're proud of it?

Heaven help us all if this is the next generation. :(

The good news is you can tell how well educated the OP is, that she'll clearly be able to support this child.

If you read the other threads you will see she just got out of "treatment" (whatever that is) and wasn't terribly happy about the pregnancy 5 minutes ago.

Sounds like another disturbed child having a child.