Leave the girl alone like you should have done in the first place.
We all told you that, but you were bound and determined to have her break up with that guy.
Now you are the heavy to her. You should have left her alone.

Nothing, absolutely NOTHING, she will call again. Don't try to be her friend now, that's what girlfriends are for, unless you want to be in the same category as them.

I hope you understand now that if she talks to you, you are a rebound to her, she is talking to you just to get over her hurt, that you and your friends help cause by the way.
You were being selfish, looking out for what you wanted, not concerned about her at all. It will dawn on her or one of your friends will tell her how you wanted her to break up with her boyfriend so you could have a chance.
How do you think she will feel about that?

no. She told me it wasn't me. She told me that don't think I broke up with him for you, it was for myself.
And I said OK.

Talaniman, so when she calls back, what do I do?

And I edited the post, could you guys re read it?

You are now in friend zone, which is what she told you in the first place.
So be a friend

Why am I in the friend zone? She told me she still likes me.
Like she is just extremely hurt because she broke up with him when he did nothing wrong. She broke up with him because she lost feelings for him, and couldn't deal with long term anymore, and just wanted to have a burden of her shoulders, she thought about breaking up with him before I came along

She may like you, but she may only want to be friends with you.
Leave her alone until she wants to talk to you.

Depending on what she says, you'll know whether she wants you as a boy friend or just a friend.
Getting another boyfriend after a break up is a big mistake.

You know what they end up calling friends with benefits??

The Plaintiff.


Start growing up and make better choices.

Califdadof3 I don't get it.
And homegirl OK. Well, I understand that If she tries to rebound with me, I will make sure that she is over him. I will wait, and I will see it.
Also, like one week before this, the time when that new philosophy dawned on her,
I asked her if she still felt strongly about me as before, she said she does, but maybe not as much since I told one of her friends about us, and it made her really mad, and I just apologized she said it was OK.

But what does the friend or boyfriend thing depend on? Like if she says something? What's the something? Key things

If she decides she wants to date you, that would be a no no. She is still fresh from a break up and that is not a good time to get involved with anyone until you are over the person.

Yeah we agreed that if we wanted to start talking to each other like actual liking each other and showing it, shed get over him first.


Do I have a chance? Or am I LJBF zoned.

I don't know. It depends on how much she liked you and how she liked you from the beginning.
It depends on if there was also someone else in the picture.

Well I think a lot, but that's just me. Like I know she cares about me a lot. Cause she always said she liked me and her ex the same. And she did break up with him yesterday. And they were going out for nearly two years.
What do you mean by someone else?

She could have been liking someone else too, just like she was liking you. She could have been flirting with someone else.
Or someone else can come along. She is free now for the first time in two years, she may want to hold on to that freedom.

Try reading this thread, it might give you some insight: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

Things aren't looking so great unfortunately.

If she broke up with her boyfriend to be with you, who knows how easy it will be to break up with you to be with someone else. How can you ever trust her completely?

Or else, this might all be going in your mind and she does not have any interest in you. She just sees you as as really good friend. So you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

If she does get together with you, she's most likely on the rebound and that's not fair to you. What happens when she's done rebounding?

But there's always that outside chance that this might all work out.

The question is, are you willing to take that risk?

Thanks I wish.

She does have interest, cause she told me.
So She did call me yesterday. But she just talked to me like we were good friends, mentioned nothing about breaking up. Today at school as well, just normal. How long should I keep it normal till? Till she talks to me about relationship stuff?

She flirts too. But I don't know, I try not too but sometimes I do.

Hi. I was kind of in the same situation as you except the girl didn't actually say she liked me but was flirting a lot. I think that I Wish got it right there. I'll repeat the question. "Are you willing to take the risk?" It's up to you bro, I hope you can make the right the decision and that everything works for you. Cya :)

If you've already told her how you feel, then the ball is on her side of the court. It's up to her if she wants something to happen and it's up to her to bring it up. You don't need to bring it up again.

I am just going to tell you straight, if she could go behind his back she can go behind yours. Just think of what she told you, she likes you both the same, so you can get the same as he got, dumped for another.

How do you even trust her?

She said she likes you, there are probably a couple of other guys she likes, maybe flirts with, but that does not mean she wants to date you. If she did she would have let you know when she broke up with her boyfriend. But she did tell you she did not want to talk to you for a while. You are not next in line for boy friend.
I told you before I think you have read more into things than are there. You are in the friend zone. She is free for the first time in a couple of years and she is not going to date anyone else right away. She is going to enjoy her freedom and flirt to her hearts content.

Ok so now. Mm she tell me she likes me a lot. Like a lot a lot. She said that she told her exboyfriend that when he comes down, they'd talk it through finally, but she let me know that she was planning to break up with him.
I went to her house the other day, and sparks flew, so we kissed. At first we were confused, maybe that it was too soon.. but we continued to and it got better and better and made out for a couple hours. By the way this was our first.
And she kept promising me that she'd now end things with him for sure
But today, I told her that we should wait for our next kiss until she's not as emotionally involved with him as much anymore so its more special. And she agreed, that we'll wait until she's over the guy. And I asked what happens after she is, and she said we just take steps from there.

So I'm wondering if what I did is right? And what your take on this is? Because I know she likes me a lot, she kept telling me that, and asked if I liked her. And she tells me she misses me a lot.

If she does break up with him,she needs to heal and get over him before starting a new relationship.

Jumping straight into a new relationship is most likely not going to work.

You would be a rebound.

Plus you know that she is,at least emotionally capable of cheating on a boyfriend,so how do you know that you,in case you do get together,could trust her?

That's why she says she's planning not to get into a relationship for the rest of senior year

I don't doubt that she likes you, but I don't think she is in a hurry to have a boy friend yet.
I also thinks she like to flirt. She likes you enough to make out with you, but she does not want to date. She may have others she's flirting with as well.
I would not put too much stock in her.

Yeah she said part of the reason she broke up with him was cause of me.
She also doesn't want to date cause part of the reason is that itd hurt him so much if he saw she got into a relationship this year after they broke up

He is still on her mind and in her heart, so you leave her alone until she comes to you.
But don't be hurt if she doesn't

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So now she isn't cheating on him, and is free to make out with you, or anyone else until he shows up this summer. Sweet deal. For her at least. And anything that goes wrong will be your fault.

Well she said she promised to break up with him

She also promised no relationship for senior year. So you got making out, and dating but no title. You okay with that?

Yeah kind of. Is that bad, what usually results

Hopefully college. That's a deal changer, especially if she goes away, unless someone changes their mind before then.

Like college brings you together? Or apart

Mostly apart, sorry, but you never know. Why you going to college too?

Yeah. So what's your whole take on the situation? If you don't mind me asking

I think she will probably mess around with you for a while but she won't formally date you. She will go off to college and then it's good bye, that is if it's not good bye before then

Ehh yeah I don't think it'd be too serious I hope. Its more of a go with the flow thing.
But for now

We talk a lot a lot. Like 24 7. and we flirt, but it's a lot of me flirting, and she flirts back, she doesn't really initiate it a lot. Am I doing something wrong

You have not listened to what she said anymore than you've listened to the advice given here.
She does not want a relationship and I don't think she is as into you as you are to her.

I had to spread the rep Homegirl, that's exactly how I see it. She is just going with the flow for now and has a plan of her own that doesn't include him in it.

Maybe that's not a bad thing, but you, Whatisthis3, have a deeper interest in her than she for you. She wants to have fun, with no strings attached and loves your attention, but I hardly think its love, or will grow to that, given your ages, and circumstances. Let me be clear, she has skills and you have fallen for them, so don't get carried away when she feeds your ego.

You have done nothing wrong but followed your heart, while ignoring the facts. You may feel strongly, but that doesn't mean she feels the same way and she has told you that. But you have persisted, and now here we are, with you thinking she will, or does have feelings for you, not as strong and hopeful as yours, but feelings nonetheless.

But, as always happens reality will crush you with the truth, she will move on, as she gets over her break up, and you lose a great date, and make out buddy.

Keep it real, and pay attention closer to what she says, and know that its high hopes of more, that have you waiting for something that may NOT happen. You can enjoy the time, but will be empty when its over, and think she is leading you on, but she isn't. You are allowing yourself to be led.