[virtuous38]

I am 33 years old and have been married for almost 3 years, this is my second marriage and I have two children from a previous marriage. My current husband is a good man and I really love him but I don’t feel that he is “in love” with me. I know that he loves and cares for me but I know that he is not in love with me and I know that I am not the greatest love of his life (I asked before and the name wasn’t mine). I guess I have known this on some level all along but lately it is bothering me and taking a toll on our marriage. We rarely ever have sex and the only time we ever really talk is if we happen to go dinner together. We pretty much are what I call “roommates with benefits”. We live in the same house but live separate lives. He is a great provider and I live a very comfortable life. He is good to my children and they love him very much. I know that if I leave, it will really hurt them but I don’t know how long I can go on living a lie…pretending everything is fine when it’s really not. I am confused as to whether I should leave him and find the love that I deserve or if I should stay?

[Mrs]

This is a tough one to answer, if he didnt love you, or you wasnt the love of your life, i dont think he would have married you.
He provides, he is good with your children.
The "love of his life" that you mention was in his past, and everyone has a past. so he was in love before he met you, he is entitled to that. he is with you now, he married you, he comes home to you everynight, isnt that good enough?
The only thing to do is to talk to him and tell him your fears.