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askaround123 · May 8, 2007, 01:25 AM

I have a very important question, I had a lapdance at a strip bar with a very hot lady a few months back.

The problem was that I barely managed to have an erection, although I enjoyed every moment of it I found it hard to have an erection. (I am not Gay), I have erections normally and I had an erection later that night a few hours after the lapdance.

Can someone explain this strange phenomena? I am in my early 20's..! This is starting to scare me. Can someone help me out here... :confused: . I

I get turned on usually when I see hot women.. but failed during a lapdance.. is this due to ED? I hope not.

Cheers

Krs · May 8, 2007, 01:26 AM

What's ED?

Are you currently in a relationship?

askaround123 · May 8, 2007, 01:30 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

Whats ED?

Are you currently in a relationship?

ED = Erection dysfunctionality and no but I used to be

Krs · May 8, 2007, 01:32 AM

Its probably nothing to worry about, you yourself said you had an erection a few hours after the lapdance, I wouldn't worry, unless it happens again!

askaround123 · May 8, 2007, 01:33 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

Its probably nothin to worry about, you yourself said you had an erection a few hours after the lapdance, i wouldnt worry, unless it happens again!

I find this weird though.. I even got to touch her... but nothing... Is this due to Booze? I had a few drinks before that night...

Zebra · May 8, 2007, 06:02 AM

Could have been the booze - Doubt that ED is a factor, that's from experience - Was the lap dance public or private? If public, might be that your subconcious doesn't like the idea of a public performance.

Matt3046 · May 8, 2007, 06:48 AM

It's not always going to perform the way you want it to. I agree it is doubtful there is a actual problem. Try again.

kp2171 · May 8, 2007, 07:36 AM

Short answer is at this time you shouldn't be too afraid. You had an erection later. But there are things, some of which have been mentioned, that you should know about ED.

A few drinks can absolutely change your ability to have and maintain an erection... though a beer or two might not always though you off... and sometimes a drink can help you relax and lose your inhibitions. Sometimes a little too much can curse you. I had an great sexual relationship with a girl in college, but the first time we had sex wed plowed through a bottle of wine. Lets just say my performance was less than stellar. Made up to her later... but I quickly got that a little too much might keep you from getting a little something.

Other things like smoking, high blood pressure, diabetes, stress can too. Just being tired after a long day or stressful day can affect this. Generally the healthier you are, the better your chances.

And mentally you also need to be connected. You were in a moment of highly erotic stimulation, but that doesn't necessarily mean your mind was perfectly ready. Again, things like stress can cause this.

Also, some may disagree with me here, but I think limiting your exposure to lots of sexual stimulation outside the bedroom with a partner (porn, strip clubs, masturbation) is good. Yes... all of those things CAN contribute to a healthier sex life... I didn't say eliminate them all, but in excess they can distract you and leave you less prepared physically and mentally.

So the world isn't crashing down. You are likely fine. The alcohol probably played a role in it. If it happens more often, then we can talk about ED.

shatteredsoul · May 8, 2007, 07:51 AM

Originally Posted by askaround123

I have a very important question, I had a lapdance at a strip bar with a very hot lady a few months back.

The problem was that I barely managed to have an erection, although I enjoyed every moment of it I found it hard to have an erection. (I am not Gay), I have erections normally and I had an erection later that night a few hours after the lapdance.

Can someone explain this strange phenomena? I am in my early 20's ... !! This is starting to scare me. Can someone help me out here ...:confused: . I

I get turned on usually when I see hot women .. but failed during a lapdance .. is this due to ED?? I hope not.

Cheers

I don't think the lap dance turns you on. It is the connection with someone that will turn you on. The fantasy is nice, butyou don't want the fake, superficial connection. You want the real thing, someone that desires you. Then you will have no issues in the erection department. Give yourself some credit, your soul desires more. There is nothing wrong with you!!

smoothy · May 8, 2007, 08:50 AM

Personally, I think its due to being out in public... sporting a woody with other people around is subconsciously not cool to most guys. Personally the few times I go to a strip club I don't sport wood. And I have no trouble what-so-ever getting it up when I want it up. And you don't need a stiffy to enjoy the show. Unless you are trying to do far more than a lap dance.

Tuscany · May 8, 2007, 09:18 AM

I am not sure if this is the answer but here is an observation.

My husband will often go to the strip club to hang out with the guys (and I have attended on a number of occasions). What I have found is that some men are made uncomfortable by the social scene, by the fact that it is objectifying women, and that they are just plain uncomfortable with the setting. However, if given the same girl in a different situation (in a bedroom, by themselves) they could perform just fine.

lacuran8626 · May 8, 2007, 03:59 PM

Could be booze, could be that you really are not morally OK with the strip club scenario. Unlikely to be a health issue at all. I'm a woman so my understanding on this is pretty minimal, but I'd guess that it would only be a matter for concern if it happened within the context of a relationship, in private, when you feel right about the woman and when you have not been drinking - and even then it wouldn't be considered a problem unless it happened repeatedly.

Fr_Chuck · May 8, 2007, 07:41 PM

I could be that you knew it was not going anywhere but the dance,

askaround123 · May 8, 2007, 11:02 PM

Thanks to all for your thoughts/opinions... phew!. My penis was about to shoot it self.. until I had the balls to... k yea to let you all know... I guess I am depressed at the mo... and really stressed.. but it was a 1 on 1 lap dance.. and she was super hot... but I know I am normal... hmmm.. yea I knew it was going no where... hmm I guess I should try it once more (Just In Case) :P haha

E3317 · May 9, 2007, 08:44 PM

I only got an erection once during the many lap dances that I have gotten. That is nothing big. If you were in a secluded place and you knew that you were about to preform and it failed then you have a problem. Until then just enjoy your flacid lap daces.