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Blleng3 · May 4, 2007, 02:33 PM

My husband and I have been together for six years. He has a seven year old son by a previous relationship. We have a three year old daughter together. He pays over six hundred dollars a month for his son. The mother is still not satisfied. She got married and had another child this year and she has asked my husband to sign his parental rights over to her husband! At first my husband refused. He truly loves his children! But recently his son has told him numerous times that he wants his stepfather to be his daddy. Now his ex is taking him back to court for more money. He hasn't seen his son in four months! My question is how do you go about giving your rights up and in the state of WV do you still have to pay child support?

startover22 · May 4, 2007, 02:36 PM

You have to go to court, and if the step dad adopts him than he probably won't have to pay anymore. Why has it been so long since he last saw his child and if he loves the dearly then why would he give him up? Just wondering.

Blleng3 · May 4, 2007, 02:45 PM

He can't afford the child support and she won't leave him alone!

startover22 · May 4, 2007, 03:23 PM

Sounds to me, you guys need to cut some serious stuff in your budget and make it work. It also sounds like the other mom is feeding this child what to say. Children don't usually "not want" their fathers. As a mother, I would never ever let my husband get out of something this big, just because of money. Not that he would ever do that but you see what I am saying. Hope it works out. You might be able to let those expensive things go for a while so your husband can still be a father!

Fr_Chuck · May 4, 2007, 03:28 PM

Yes fathers who really love their child, will keep in court, and pay proper child support, it is normally set looking at the income of the father as a base for it. After that he visits the child on a regular basis, of course if the father is complaining about paying the support and does not see the cild for 4 months he is going to feel like his step dad loves him more.

So you work your budget to pay child support and he visits his child every couple weeks and gets him for so many weeks over summer and holidays. This is what real fathers does.

tawnynkids · May 5, 2007, 10:52 AM

7 years old... trust me he doesn't understand what he is saying. At 8 my daughter said she wanted to live with her father, told everyone that. As a parent it was the worst thing you could hear. But she is now nearly 14 and regrets it terribly. She realizes now she didn't understand what she was saying. (Rather what others were putting in her head.) Tell your husband to find some strength within in him to not let go. Chances are this 7 year old is only expressing at best how much he loves the other person in his life. We should all be so lucky to have stepparents in our children's lives that they love so much.

She can take him to court every week of every month. The court can only award what is deemed affordable by the state guidelines according to incomes. She can be as vengeful as she likes but the court can't be. In the grand scheme of things the amount is never any where near what it actually takes to raise that child anyway. If he lived with you I am sure you would find a way to afford it.

If your husband has an order for visitation and she is in violation of that order you can file for contempt. Whether he is current on his support or not. Money is never an excuse for parental alienation. Or rather I should say more importantly... denying that child of his God given right to a relationship with his/her parent.