[kieran80]

Hi All,


Thank you for reading.

Right, here goes...

6 weeks ago I was dumped by my girlfriend. I had trust issues after she lied to me over something early on in the relationship. We were together 5 months.

We had all the fun in the world, made plans for our future all the stuff committed, in love couples do.

But 6 weeks ago, she sat on my sofa, and poured her heart out saying that she just wanted to bang he head against a brick wall to show me how much she loved me. Basically, due to this lie, I have to be honest, my respect and trust for her was bruised and I never really moved on from it. Anyway, during this conversation I told her why I was feeling the way I did and she couldn't believe I was feeling the way I was over something so "small". Regardless, that's how it made me feel.

We both took on board what each other said and agreed to start again the next day. We went to sleep and I had to get up for work the next day. I work up as usual, obviously somewhat jaded from the night before's conversation, gave her a kiss and went to work.

I got to work, hit the ground running and didn't send her my semi-routine love you text. Anyway, very busy day, used the down time I had to digest the night before. 15 minutes before I am due to leave work, I receive a message from her. Basically saying "You haven't made an effort all day, i cant do this anymore (heart broken emoji)" Obviously, I knew what this meant. I got home and her and her stuff was gone.

So, as I loved her, I wet on the hunt, finally finding her at her sisters (He sister had just found out her husband had been cheating on her while she was pregnant with their second child). Well, I turn up and no one will talk to me, I finally get communication with my ex, briefly, while her sisters keeps interrupting and kicking off at me. Anyway, I said to her what's your sisters problem and she said she was probably taking her anger towards her husband out on me. Anyway, she didn't budge and went back in the house and off I went.

I tried calling her in the mornings when I got up, left her a voicemail here and there, she answered once and listened to me talk for 10 seconds before hanging up.

About 1 week later, desperate, I turn up at her house, She panics, and lets me know her brother is on his way round so I need to go. (not bothered by the brothers arrival I stay as long as I can). She was a mess, ulcers, heartbroken, no makeup, very low. I said I thought you said you loved me, then why would you leave, do you still love me... to which she replied she did.

Anyway, he brother turns up with his girlfriend and we have a brief sensible conversation and I walk away.

A week later I send her a long letter explaining things to her and how I feel, with some little sketches of memorable times we had together.

Fast forward to today, 6 weeks after breakup (btw she deleted and blocked me on everything possible, immediately after we broke up) I am obviously in a slightly better place than I was then, however I am still longing for her and want her back.

I know that I cant make contact and I know this is probably a fruitless question, but is there anything I can do?

I am making myself the best me possible and all that jazz.

Many thanks in advance.

[tickle]

I have a feeling that she just hasn't go the guts to tell you the truth; she doesn't love you or she would not be acting the way you describe. I sense a lot of immaturity on her part being unable to own up to her real feelings about you, which are probably nil.

No, there is nothing you can do but move on from her and probably count your blessings that this is the end of a 'no where' relationship. Sorry.

[talaniman]

Yes there is something you can do. You can keep leaving her alone, so you both can get through this. Sorry about this break up, it sucks and will for a while until you get tired of being miserable and WANT to live again. I don't know what this thing was that threw you off and led to this split, but in time people are usually glad that it's over, and put behind them.

You just need more time even if this was just a short 5 months you were together.