[MarMar27]

Hello, Ok I'm going to try to make a long story short but I really need some advice on this if some one can please help me cause I am so confused and don't know what to do... I started dating this guy in September and he was still talking to his ex and I kind of knew it just wasn't sure of it I didn't have any serious feelings for him at the time but I did go through his phone and found text messages they sent each other how they wanted to see each other and how they miss each other and everything I didn't say nothing about it just kept it to myself.. then me and him started spending more time together and so on.. I find out I'm pregnant in January and I figured they weren't talking no more because he seemed so into me.. Well In January a couple weeks after I find out I'm pregnant I had a dream of him and her talking on the phone so I had this bad instinct I went through his phone about 2 days later and found text messages he sent her saying how he was sorry and how he loves her and it was a mistake and he needs her in his life and all kinds of things so I confronted him about it and he got mad that I went through his phone so we got in this big argument and he just told me how she will always be his heart and he still loves her and all kinds of things that really did hurt me then he told me he was going to stop talking to her I should have known better and should have left him then and there he even told me to have an abortion but he repented and he said he said it out of anger he is very happy we have one on the way but I just can't get them 2 out of my mind I feel like he still keeps in contact with her and I don't know what I should do I brought her up a couple weeks ago and he got mad... he says he hasn't talked to her since but I just don't believe it he still loves her and I feel that he still wants to be with her and she has a boyfriend so it feels like that's the only thing that has kept him from being with her again... please help.. thanks

[Jiser]

Hey, hope this helps? This is a reply to your pm also.

Difficult cirumstances here! Unfortuntely when a partner talks to an ex, it really fuels insecurities! Espescially when he may still have feelings for her. You have some choices to make.

You can either like it or lump it. By this I mean you stay or leave. If you are in an unhappy relationship for the benefit of your child, do not bring him/her up in a this loving family. Not fair on you or your baby.

However in any relationship there should be trust, without it, you don't really have a lot left. You should honestly comfront him when you are both relaxed and not under any pressure. Talk to him about how you feel - this is important. COMMUNICATION.

[talaniman]

You snooped and found out he still has a thing for his ex, so he hasn't gotten over her and may never. The sad part is that you knew how he felt but chose to ignore it, and believe him when he lied about it. You knew better. Leave him alone to deal with his issues and make sure your baby is happy and healthy and well loved. You are tied to him through this child for years, but that doesn't mean you have to take his crap, and lying. Its up to you to get over it, as you had a chance to do the right thing already, so don't blame anyone but yourself for being in this mess. The child comes first no matter what. At least get that right.

[MarMar27]

You snooped and found out he still has a thing for his ex, so he hasn't gotten over her and may never. The sad part is that you knew how he felt but chose to ignore it, and believe him when he lied about it. You knew better. Leave him alone to deal with his issues and make sure your baby is happy and healthy and well loved. You are tied to him thru this child for years, but that doesn't mean you have to take his crap, and lying. Its up to you to get over it, as you had a chance to do the right thing already, so don't blame anyone but yourself for being in this mess. The child comes first no matter what. At least get that right.

Yeah I know and that's the same thing I always say that I screwed myself over and I should have left him back then... your completely right... I just hate the fact I have to know him for the rest of my life and he's treated me like **** too since I known him with his anger I've been so hurt.. but what goes around eventually comes around, I am going to make the right decision this time.. thanks

[MarMar27]

Well I found out they're still talking, so I ended it with him I don't need any drama right now my baby comes first