[pizzahguy]

Well first things first my friend who I am in love with likes a guy who challenges her and also who is somewhat an -hole and the problem is I tried to be this guy but I can't say no to her and am always trying to make her happy and I have sacrificed a lot just to make her happy and no matter what I do for her she disrespects me and takes me for granted which kills me. But every time I decide to walk away, I just talk to her on the phone once and am back again. Also whenever I am with her and then try to leave her she gives me that look with her eyes which says she doesn't want me to leave and she needs me. She depends on me a lot. I have known her for 2 years now and whenever someone confesses their feelings towards her she just ignores them and then block and deletes them from everywhere and I don't want to lose her. The problem is, it's like she is stamped into my heart I can't force myself to walk away and leave her, I always forgive her and I always want to make her happy. Now we are graduating and she still wants to travel with me to another country to do another degree or look for a job and I can't tell her that I want to get away from her, but I really need do something now I have a feeling she started seeing someone else and I don't know what I am supposed to do.

[Alty]

You're allowing her to treat you like this. She's showing you every day how she will treat you, and that's not going to change. She's not into you as a boyfriend, she's into you as a friend that's always there to bail her out when she needs to be bailed out. You're her safety net. In the meantime, you feel like crap every day because you're only there for her hoping she'll suddenly notice you and give you what you want. She won't.

So the question is, do you want to continue being her doormat, or are you strong enough to tell her it's done, delete her from social media, delete her from your life, and refuse to let her have any more power over you? I think you are. Obviously you know that having her in your life is not in your best interest, so tell her to get lost, and then make sure she stays out of your life.

If you don't, then, well, you get what you ask for. Stop allowing someone else to dictate your life. Start living for you!

[ma0641]

You really have to ask this question? Sounds like you are ultra hung up and needy... "can't say no!!". "Disrespects me, takes me for granted,. sounds like a drama queen. Time for a new life or this will be like Groundhog Day. Read Alty's post-- a couple of times.

[joypulv]

Do you realize how unfair she is to you? She knows you are infatuated with her, but she doesn't CARE. All her looks to draw you back are just to use you.
She is USING you.
She doesn't care about you.
If she even cared about you as a friend, she would tell you that she is cutting you off 100%.
She can't even be bothered to do that, because then you wouldn't buy her things and do things for her.
UGH!
And you????? Well you are sort of forgiven because you are in love (not real love, of course), but you are also a sap.
Time to show some strength and self respect. Be a man. Grow up. Find someone to love who cares as much about you as you do about her. THAT is love.

[talaniman]

I know it sucks being a fool for love, but maybe confronting her with the truth, as you have done here, will get it out in the open where you can deal with it better. Not easy finding the courage to get some dignity and self respect, and stop being devoted to someone who is not as devoted to you, so tackle this head on and direct and prepare for the emotional fallout.

Let the truth set you free! You can't lose what you don't have!

[smoothy]

Walk away.. it doesn't hurt that much for that long... particularly once you finally acknowledge the stuff you already know... everyone is better off WITHOUT those sorts of issues in their life. You will begin to see that in a week or so of no longer dealing or communicating with them. And it only gets easier from then on.

There is a lot better out there.. you just how to open your eyes to it.