[Pandolphpanda]

To start I am a 20-year-old female and I'm bisexual other then but my crush who has also been my best friend also a female and we have known each other for three years. We both know we have feelings for each other but since she lived somewhere else which is hours away from where I live I didn't want to do long distance. The main reason was that I wasn't really sure if I was ready, but my dad has always placed in my mind that it was hard to have a relationship like that, and how sometimes they won't last, but after that seeing how my third older sister was dating her boyfriend who lived far away, how he usually came down. or she went up to where he was, along with the both of them either talking to each other quite a lot, or playing video games together, has been making me thinking of trying to ask my best friend if she wanted to try.

I was honestly planning to do it this week, to ask, because it takes me a few days to get my courage up to straight up ask, but last week she told me she was in a relationship, and as if on cue I started to cry. She knew I would, even if it was from that Facebook messenger app thing. Even if we both know the guy she is with I just felt like it was a bunch of bull, because he knew I liked her I remember telling him and two of my other guy friends about it last year I think it was.
I want to be happy for the both of them but I feel like with this I would get in the way since I still have feelings for her and it would cause some problems to where its making me not want to talk as much.

I just hate it because I just now I guess have placed a mask of some sort so she wouldn't know I'm still hurting even if it has been a few days already. She has told me the reasons which was that even if she is bisexual her main preference is guys which I understand. I have honestly been the same way with that but the second reason was that I didn't want a long distance relationship. Just hearing that second reason for some reason hurt me even more because it made me feel as if it was my fault for not even wanting to try like I do now. She has said she regrets what she did and stuff like that but I don't want her to. I want her to be happy even if it makes me feel like I shouldn't be around.

If I could get any advice for this I would be grateful to anyone thank you…

[Alty]

I'm not sure what advice you want. Are you asking if you should just disappear from her life, or if you should continue to be friends with her and bury your feelings?

Bottom line, she's found someone. Doesn't matter if you told the guy she's with how you feel about her, he obviously cares about her too, and she feels the same way about him. It takes two to make a relationship. She told you she's bi but more into guys.

Now I don't know her, I don't know all the convo's you two have had, I don't know any more than what you wrote. But from what you wrote I'd say that she was trying to let you down easy, trying not to hurt you, but making it clear that she doesn't want to date you. Her telling you she's in a relationship, telling you she's more into guys, it's all a nice way of saying, "I like you as a friend and that's it".

Sorry, but that's how I see it. :(

[talaniman]

I know it hurts to be disappointed this way, but the good news is leaving them alone, and getting on with your own life, will allow you to heal in time. Let friends and family help you through this tough time.

[smoothy]

They just are a crush... not a fiancée or a spouse.. they can date anyone they want. Move on... find a new one... there are 7+ billion people on earth.

[catonsville]

Respect her honesty. She could have sent you an invitation to her wedding. It is a long distance friendship and they usually wane. So move on.