[benDePro93]

So this girl for the past year we have been 'close friends'. The problem was she had a boyfriend (long distance) and it's been basically a whole lot of denial, fights and ego wars. There were a lot of obvious signs of chemistry, attraction and clear signs of interest which a lot of other people could see (including me) but she vehemently denied it and claimed it was just being friendly. There were a lot of confusing situations as well - she acts weird/differently when I go out with other girls. She has a HUGE ego. After the final fight during exams, we broke off the 'friendship' under the pretext of too many misunderstandings.

Time went on and I did my thing and she did hers over the holidays. We never talked and went our separate ways. Now, I recently found out that she broke up with her boyfriend. We are going to the same university overseas to study abroad. I went out with other girls but it was just dates that didn't really lead anywhere (as I was going abroad mainly).

We haven't talked in 2 months on which we mutually consented on doing but everyone says nothing is set in stone. Perhaps the whole debacle existed in the first place because she had a BF? I'm just spit balling here but maybe things will be different now that we are going to a new environment and we could restart things over.

I'm thinking of reconnecting with this girl. How should I even go about doing that? If anyone thinks I shouldn't, feel free to say why as well. All opinions and advice are welcome. Thank you!

[smoothy]

Don't bother with this one... find another without drama or baggage.

Any relationship that can be described as "complicated" is by its very definition... not a good one.

[talaniman]

Leave her alone. Why even get back into a drama again after the drama you just got out of with her? I doubt that your previous problems with this person were just her boyfriend and maybe more her character than just a simple bad relationship.

Makes no sense to reopen a can of worms again, when there is so many better options and opportunities to explore. Guess you didn't get enough BS last time. Or miss the complicated drama more than you admit, and that goes to your own thinking and character.

Let sleeping dog lie my friend as she may not even be any better off after splitting with the ex a she was before.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ty-791782.html

I assume this is the same girl.

[benDePro93]

Yea, it's the same girl and perhaps you guys are right. Maybe it's because I haven't met other girls yet that I resort going back to this one. Thank you!