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Voetjie · Jun 23, 2014, 12:25 PM

Well.. Some basic information before I start... We've (GF and I) been dating for 6 months. Age- 18
They were dating from 2011 to 2012 for about a year and 5 months about... Bear in mind this happen 2 years ago.

Well we are in a relationship now. It's all good but she has memories of him every now and then but then she says she hates him so much for what he has done to her (she lost his virginity to him and he screwed her best friend as well) but they are over now. I've had sex with her (I lost my virginity to her) and it's something special to me. I really love her and she even knows that, but like now I told her, hey so where did he go (I drove past him and he was going to the direction of her house, but he didn't) and she said Really? When and what car did he drive? I then said it didn't matter and I got upset because I don't like what he did to her. I then confronted her about it and she said just drop it, she doesn't know why she said that but I won't understand how she felt about it.

She said she doesn't get over her past and I don't like him. We were even walking once on a route and he was on one side of a building and as we wanted to walk past him she told me to walk to other side? (So we can't see him) They don't speak anymore but she still has all his letters etc and she says she keeps all her letters because it's sentimental and she wants to show her kids one day of all her letters of her boyfriends.

Is there something fishy? What must I do? Does she still like him?

talaniman · Jun 23, 2014, 02:50 PM

Have fun and mind your own business and not make this such a big deal. No one completely forgets the past but why let it affect you now? Her past is her business and for her to deal with without you meddling in it. Hell she and you may not be together in another year any way, so drop the suspicious mind and deal with your own fear and insecurities and lack of experience in adult relationships.

You will learn to ease up and relax as you grow and learn more... if you don't get carried away about such things now. Its only been 6 months and many more things to find out about. Stay cool, and enjoy the learning, both good and bad while it lasts.