[suzers18]

I was reading about people being dumped before the weddings and that they started NC. I was dumped two days before my wedding and I would like to forget about this guy for once and for all. He has broken up with me before but nothing like this. I need to find myself and a new life.

[Cat1864]

NC is No Contact. It means having as little (preferably none at all) contact with your ex. There are some cases where completely cutting off all communications is not an option such as working at the same place, mutual friends or taking care of bills, and so forth.

For many who use NC, it means deleting all forms of contact and not accepting any communications from the other person. Unfriend on social sites, block emails, ignore/block texts and phone calls, etc. Some even have to ask well meaning friends to refrain from giving updates on the ex.

If you have to have contact with the other person, keep it professional, polite and brief. Do not encourage personal exchanges. Treat him like a stranger.

It will still take time to heal but it does help lessen the time. It also keeps the confusion of whether or not you are making the correct decision to a minimum.

While keeping NC, keep your mind and body busy. Try not to give yourself a chance to dwell on your decision. Go out with friends, see family, try a new hobby, make new memories, anything to give yourself time to let the ex become a memory. If you do start thinking about him and wanting him back, don't beat yourself up. Change the thought process and let it go. Focusing on the feelings make them stronger. Put your energy and time into other things that make you feel better and stronger.

Good luck.