[Excessbaggage]

I've been with my g/f for a little over a year.. Everything was going good and I don't know why but I just changed. I'm 22 and she's 19. I'm attracted to her but lately I've been really attracted to other girls. My girlfriend is extremely emotional, to the point where she tells me she Won't lose me. She's going back to school in the fall an hour away and plans to get a job up there.. I am starting school again and I work nights.. So we both are going to be very busy..

I have never left someone in my life.. I've been dumped and I know how it feels.. I don't think I could put someone through that... One big problem is I took her virginity and I'm basically her first boyfriend and first person she has fell in love with...

I've been very busy the past year but my sched recently changed and I have been hanging out with friends more and going to clubs and partying.. Obviously she can't because she's not 21.

Never in my life have I cheated on someone, and the other night I made out with a girl when I was really drunk. I feel ashamed and like a total because of it... But on the other hand I feel bad because I have been attracted to so many other girls...

I don't know if I should just wait till school and see how things go.. Maybe because it's summer I just am having this urge to be single and party more.. I don't know what's going on with me... I don't even know what to do right now... I don't want to hurt her at all. She is the nicest girl I have ever been with... Almost too nice and too emotional..

Please help.. I'm lost.. Also I know I'm a jerk for making out with that girl, but I could NEVER ever tell my g/f that.. It would break her heart... I would never sleep with someone else though.. I'm just so afraid to make a bad decision and regret it...

And I know the whole "" You need to end it now and not drag it out any longer"" speech.. I just don't think I can do it.. I've never done it...

This sucks!! :(:(:(


Any responses are greatly appreciated

[Excessbaggage]

Crap I wrote I would never sleep with anyone else.. I didn't sleep with the girl I made out with.. I meant I would never cheat on my g/f and sleep with someone...

[kctiger]

Being attracted to other girls is natural. If I dated Megan Fox I would still be attracted to other girls. It is what you do and how you handle your feelings that matter. Is the ONLY reason you want to break up with her is due to you being attracted to people of the opposite sex?

On the other hand, if you aren't into this relationship and you truly want out, then by all means end it, and YES it is only fair to her. But I caution you to remember that the grass isn't always greener.

[ZoeMarie]

I would say that it is time to break up with her. It sounds like you're starting to wander and if you were completely happy in your relationship you wouldn't be doing that.

Breaking up with someone is hard. I had to break up with my first real boyfriend of over 4 years. We were each other's first everything, but when you don't feel the same way that you used to, what else do you do? It's unfair not to talk to her about the way you feel just because you know it's going to hurt her feelings. I would think its more unfair to be led on and think that everything is fine.