[yadii95]

I'm 18 years old and I lost my virginity to my fwb (friends with benefits) he would be rough and would ram through me even though I said to be gentle. I stopped talking to him and I have a boyfriend who I've been with for a while. Yesterday he fingered me and it hurt but that was because I was tense. So I would try to relax and then it would feel good. I told my boyfriend that it hurt once the pain was unbearable. He was scared and upset that I didn't say something until last minute because he wants me to feel good. But he wasn't doing anything wrong, he was completely gentle. I don't know if its just in my head or there's something wrong with me. I do have irregular periods(1-2 weeks early/late) and I haven't seen a gynecologist (never seen one). I'm nervous to tell my mom that I want to go see one, but at the same time its my health and I don't want it to affect me conceiving in the future. So is the pain all in my head because of my fwb or is there something wrong with me physically?

[smoothy]

It might not be in your head... so you really do need to see a gynecologist. There are a few conditions that can legitimately make it very painful for you. But they need treated by a professional.