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Iamroblinn · Jul 7, 2013, 08:30 AM

Ok so I've been see this girl for 7 months we move in together Instantly she's 7 months pregnant with my child , but I've been lying to her about talking to another girl.even since we met ( but this girl was just a friend) she broke up with me 2 months ago. My question is.I do I get her back if she does not even want to talk to me

odinn7 · Jul 7, 2013, 09:12 AM

My question is, can you make this a little less confusing so I could attempt to answer it?

Cat1864 · Jul 7, 2013, 10:13 AM

Ok so I've been see this girl for 7 months we move in together Instantly she's 7 months pregnant with my child , but I've been lying to her about talking to another girl.even since we met ( but this girl was just a friend) she broke up with me 2 months ago. My question is.I do I get her back if she does not even want to talk to me

I am trying to make certain I understand the background correctly: You were seeing a female (GF) seven months before you moved in together. When you began living together she admitted to being seven months pregnant and claimed the child is yours. During your time together you lied to about talking to a female friend. Two months ago (nine months from the beginning of dating) you broke up. Now you want to know how to get her back. She refuses to talk to you.

As for the timing of the pregnancy (assuming there is one and she wasn't lying), if you did what many people do and had sex with her from the very beginning, yes, it could be yours. I won't go into why she waited to tell you or even if she knew, too many unknown factors including her medical history.

Has the baby been born? Have you had or made arrangements to have a DNA test done to determine paternity? If the child is yours, you have rights and responsibilities where he/she/they are concerned. You might consider talking to a lawyer who can tell you more about DNA testing, child support, visitation, etc.

Stop thinking about getting her back. Right now the focus should be on the child who has been or is about to born. Find out if you are a father. If you are, step up to the plate and do what you should whether she likes it or not. If you aren't, then make a decision about whether you want her in your life or not and if you can handle the thought of her having another man's baby. Be honest with yourself about being able to trust her. If by then she is willing to talk to you after the DNA test, talk to her about trying again.

IF there is a chance at some point in the not-so-close future for you to get back together, start over from square one and build a brand new relationship. No matter how much you want or try, things will never be the same as they were. For future reference, you can have friends, but do not lie to your girlfriend about talking to them. Together set boundaries you can both live within. Communicate and compromise.

Good luck.