[doodleman212]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half now. We are going into the seventh grade and we are really close as a couple. We have already seen each other naked and are comfortable seeing each other like that. I want to get her to feel comfortable with a sexual relationship with me, but I don't know if she's ready yet. Can anyone tell me the right time to ask her?

[Curlyben]

Depending on your location, such an act may carry SERIOUS legal consequences.

[doodleman212]

But there are a million places 2 hide. My town is basically all woods

[joypulv]

You can't hide pregnancy.
You can't hide the basic infections that often go with having sex - yeast, bacteria, urinary tract in women.
Do you think condoms will protect you? They have a high failure rate.
Do you really think that any adult here (and teens have to stay in the teen category, which this should be under) is going to give you suggestions.
Your hormones may have you thinking about sex every 2 minutes, but I doubt that she is. Stay with the time-honored way of boys everywhere, and masturbate.
Start thinking like a real man and respect the tremendous burden a WOMAN has in life when she has sex. I don't think you have a clue about the consequences, nor about the fact that it is equally the man's responsibility.
The law will teach you if you don't teach yourself.

[Cat1864]

When should you ask her?
When you are both old enough to not need to think about hiding.
When you can pay for your own birth control.
When you can pay for your own medical expenses.
When you can support a pregnancy.
When you can support a baby.
When you can make legal decisions for yourself.
When you are old and mature enough to understand that being 'close as couple' isn't enough of a reason to risk everything including parental trust, your future, and her health.

I understand being young and in love. I understand feeling close and wanting to be closer. What you need to understand is that sneaking around, hiding from everyone what you are doing, worrying each month if she might be pregnant, etc. destroys the closeness. It eats away at the love. If parents don't find out, if a pregnancy doesn't occur, then relationship falls apart from insecurity and other very negative emotions. We see questions nearly every day from young adults wondering why their relationships are dying or died.

Stop playing adult games. Keep your clothes on. Use this time in your lives to learn and strengthen your communication skills. Learn how valuable non-sexual forms of showing affection are. If you do, your relationship may be one of the few that survives the full test of time.

[ScottGem]

Do your parents know you are a couple? Have they given permissions for you to date? How old are you? By my calculations entering 7th grade puts you at 12, maybe 13. At those ages you are only playing at adult relationships that you are not ready for. And you are definitely not ready for sex. No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless you are physically, financially and emotionally prepared to have a child. You both fail on all three counts.

[smoothy]

She's not ready and neither are you. You can't get a real job... you can't support a real baby.

Until you can (and that will be years from now)... you both better keep your clothes on.

[JudyKayTee]

My suggestion would be to ask her father (or her mother) when they think it would be a good time to ask her.

That's the responsible, respectful thing to do.

And "how to get your gf to have sex with you"? If you have to "get" her to have sex with you neither one of you is ready.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are both children and have no business having sex.

She is not on birth contorl, condoms have a 3 to 18 percent failure rate,

[smoothy]

you are both children and have no business having sex.

she is not on birth contorl, condoms have a 3 to 18 percent failure rate,

And that's only IF you actually know what you are doing... the failure rate is far higher for those who don't.. like the OP because at that age.. they can't possibly know more than 5% of what they think they know yet about human reproduction..

[ScottGem]

I hope doodleman will return. He hasn't logged in since just after his response about places to hide. So he hasn't seen any of the answers we have given.

If he returns, I hope he will understand that out answers are out of concern for him and his girlfriend. Concern for them ruining their lives because of trying to grow up too soon.

[Oliver2011]

And thats only IF you actually know what you are doing....the failure rate is far higher for those who don't..like the OP because at that age.. they can't possibly know more than 5% of what they think they know yet about human reproduction..

But at an advanced age, which is what I am guessing here, those things haven't swam in a long time. Just saying...

[smoothy]

But at an advanced age, which is what I am guessing here, those things haven't swam in a long time. Just saying...

Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a child at 82. The eggs will rot but the fish still swim for a very... very... long time.

[Tc123]

Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a child at 82.

For Heaven's sake. Did not know that about the great actor. 82?

If the OP does return, please heed these warnings. In the end, maybe you're going to do what you're going to do or at least try. Keep RESPECT in mind as well as what everyone else has said so far.

[Oliver2011]

Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a child at 82. The eggs will rot but the fish still swim for a very ...very ...long time.

That may be the case but it was a delicate way of saying what I was thinking...

[smoothy]

Luckily Seventh grade girls are much smarter and more mature than most seventh grade guys are. And hopefully she's smart enough to call the authorities if he tries to push her into it.

Yeah I'm one of those guys that never accepted or was happy with the fact a lot of guys resort to lies, threats and intimidation to get their way with young women... or older women for that matter. Even when I was that age.

[ScottGem]

Luckily Seventh grade girls are much smarter and more mature than most seventh grade guys are. And hopefully she's smart enough to call the authorities if he tries to push her into it.

Yes, but remember this girl has apparently undressed for this boy already. So I worry about her resistance to sex.

[smoothy]

Yes, but remember this girl has apparently undressed for this boy already. So I worry about her resistance to sex.

That is a VERY good point... and one I forgeot was mentioned.

At that rate... I see her having a baby and dropping out of high school... every singe girl that was like that when I was that age... ended up that way... a few before they even made it to high school.

[ScottGem]

At that rate...I see her having a baby and dropping out of high school......every singe girl that was like that when I was that age....ended up that way....a few before they even made it to high school.

I'm not so sure about that. I'm hoping that this happened when they were 10 or 11 and it was more youthful curiosity than sexual. On the other hand, the OP says they are comfortable being naked in front of each other, which is more likely to lead to what you said.

[smoothy]

I'm not so sure about that. I'm hoping that this happened when they were 10 or 11 and it was more youthful curiosity than sexual. On the other hand, the OP says they are comfortable being naked in front of each other, which is more likely to lead to what you said.

We can hope... but when I was that age... Basically 1973-74 school year entering the 7th grade... it was a different time... but AIDS didn't exist... few people heard of Herpes... and HPV was something few people even know about. And I wasn't in an inner city school, conversely I was in a smallish Rural school district.. and yet we had more than a couple that happened to.