[kirbyk93]

Is it possible to like someone before even seeing them in person?
I first met this guy on a dating site and we exchanged phone numbers. We would text each other back and forth all night. I asked him why he doesn't talk on the phone and he replied that there are too many awkward pauses when talking on the phone, so we used the Voxer app. We would talk on Voxer for long hours. (SIDE NOTE: In his dating profile he mentioned his tendency to fall in love easily and hard)

But the problem arose when I would log into my Facebook page and see that he had posted a message about how he missed his ex-girfriend, how she hurt him and how much hated her but yet he still loved her. After seeing these posts I felt like I was wasting my time and why am I even talking to this guy if he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend?

In my mind I wanted to back away from him but I couldn't I liked him way too much so we would continue to message back and forth. Finally I managed to stop texting him. But recently we began texting all over again and he asked if I would hang out with him some time. I really like this guy and but I don't to come off as desperate so I wait for him to text me, I don't text him too often when we talk I try to keep the conversation very general and not too personal because I don't want to run him away. But there is sooo much that I want to know, like how he feels about me. I know we met online but we are so compatible it's insane.

He is still posting depressing things about his past relationship and its been more almost a year since we first met online. I'm running out of things to talk to him about because I don't know what to say as I stated before I don't want to push him away. When we text he never mentions his ex he talks like everything is fine and he isn't feeling the way his posts on Facebook suggest.

I'm lost and I don't know how to further this relationship or even if I should. I like him so much and I wish he would at least give me a chance to show him that I am different from his ex-girlfriend. He has mentioned that he has trust issues, but that was on a Facebook post, he never told me directly. Please help.

[teacherjenn4]

I wouldn't waste any more time on an online relationship. You haven't ever met him in a year, so why are you still hanging on to someone who:
1. Won't talk to you on the phone.
2. Hasn't met you in person.
3. Is still in love with an ex-girlfriend.

Be safe and move on with your life. I don't think this is going to work out. Who knows if he is the person he says he is. Sounds like he has something to hide!

[kirbyk93]

Thank you

[talaniman]

Totally agree with Joy, and hope you stop all contact with him, and eliminate any way he can contact you. Follow your head, and tell your heart to shut the hell up.