[anuradha26]

I am a 22 year old girl in a relationship with a guy of 23 years of age since three years.We have been in a long distance relationship and the distance factor makes it difficult to handle messed up situations.We do somehow manage to meet twice a year at least. Last night we had a heated argument and somehow he had cooled down when I cracked a joke at the wrong time and he got fired on me again.I agree I was at fault and tried asking him sorry but he just refused to consider me this time.He flatly said I don't know when to say what and I take things so lightly.I don't know how to control this situation and to bring back the situation to normal again.Please help.

[Homegirl 50]

Long distant relationships are hard. Maybe things are getting hard. Why and for how long is this long distant thing going to go on?

[AnswerMan5000]

You're 22 years old, you've been seeing the guy for 3 years and you see each other twice a year.

Do I see a problem here?

Why don't you look for someone more local. You're 22. There is no reason to be tied down to someone who is so far away you can only see them twice a year.

How would things even move to the next level if you wanted them to if that is how things are going.

You're 22. You're so young - energize yourself and tell yourself, you can have any man you want.

Then next time you see one you find interesting or attractive, pursue him. Take the initiative. Begin a conversation. You'd be surprised to learn how easy it is to meet and talk to people and next thing you know, you don't need some guy who you can only see twice a year.