[bryant27]

OK so my mom has changed a lot lik a lot she's never been like this in all my 13yrs I guess it all started when my brother csme from dominican republic I think he has a year already and before that my mom and me were very close now my mom and me aren't that close when I try talking to her about it all she days is that my brother didn't came her to take my spot that he was the one born first and all that I'm not helous I just want to have a good and close relationship with her like my best friend has.. I'm very frustuated I don't know what to do any more I feel really bad this is really hard for me I have jo one to. Talk to except for my best friend the way my mom talks to me really hurts I act like it don't but it does and there is no point of telling her because she ignores me my real dad and don't jave a relationship... anything I can try please help me :(

[Alty]

This is so common that someone really should write a book about it. As soon as you started writing, before you posted your age, I was going to ask if your 13-16. Why? Well, that's when most kids feel that their relationship with their parents changes. The funny thing is, kids usually think it's the parents that are changing, when it's not, it's the child.

I can still remember when I went through this.

You're growing up. You're going to notice that your relationship with your parents is always changing. You start as an infant needing constant care and attention, then you become a toddler and try to be a bit more independent. Then you start school, make friends, but miss your mom all day long. Then there's the teen years, puberty, body changes, and changes in the way you act and think, that's the most confusing time. Then there's the young adult years when you hopefully realize that your parents are there to support you. Then there's marriage and kids, when you finally realize that everything your parents did for you, they did for your own good. Then you lose them and you're back to square one.

This is just a phase, but I'd bet money that this isn't your moms phase, but yours.

[tickle]

Just talk to us here and get it all out; you will hear from a lot of people and we all mean good, If you have a bad day, come here and tlk, OK.

[joypulv]

You 'have no one to talk to' except your best friend? Gosh, a best friend is THE person you talk to when you are growing older, as you are. You did have your mother all to yourself, and I do wonder if maybe you aren't a tiny bit possessive and jealous? Give Mom a little space for a while, and I think you will find that she can be as close as before - but it's going to be different, for your own good.

Also, you don't know what she is going through. Could there be problems with your father, a boyfriend? Money worries? Your brother has problems? It may be that she has troubles and worries of her own, and you are all about teen stuff, and she just isn't interested when she has some really adult and serious concerns on her mind.

[Fr_Chuck]

A mom is a mother, not a best friend, and should not be a best friend, you need to have a friend to be a friend. At 13 she has to be a mother, not always a friend