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melonheadz · Mar 10, 2013, 06:41 PM

My girlfriend of 1 year just broke up with me one week ago. She is 18 and a senior in high school and I’m 19 and a sophomore in college. When we were together we never fought and were in a really loving relationship. When she broke up with me she told me she still loved me so much and that I was her best friend and that she still wanted to be together when she comes to university in 5 months. She said she still wants to be best friends and keep our love alive but that it’s too hard for her during her last semester of high school to keep up with our relationship.

We tried staying close and being friends the first few days, but it hurt me too much to know how much I still loved her and couldn’t be with her. I tried to win her back a few times over this past week to no avail. So, I told her I probably needed to stop talking to her for a little while to work out my emotions. That was yesterday.

Today she continues to send me snapchats (picture messages) even though I told her that seeing her is just going to make me continue to love her and that I couldn’t be friends with her if I was in love with her.

What do I do? I want to be with her more than anything when she comes here, but in the meantime I can't stand to hold onto her while I can’t have her. What is her goal? Why does she insist on wanting me to hold onto her but won’t try to keep the relationship alive? Should I respond to her messages?

Lovely Lace · Mar 10, 2013, 07:54 PM

Well I'm not the love expert here but I sort of know how it feels to lose a person who you really want to stay with. What I do is think of reasons our relationship wouldn't work out and how being together in the future could turn out.
Well I think you should respond to her messages. Even though messaging her will make you upset, you can't just ignore her. It will make her feel bad. Try to stay strong! You're a man and remember men are strong.

I don't really know what she is trying to accomplish but maybe she is trying to test you or she realized something that made her want to brake up with u. Did you ever talk to her about why she doesn't want to be your girlfriend?

That's all I can say. I hope this helped a little. If it didn't I understand because I'm only 12 :P

melonheadz · Mar 10, 2013, 08:04 PM

We live about 30 minutes away right now in different towns because she's in high school and I'm at college. She says it's too hard for her to carry on the relationship in our current situations, which didn't make sense to me because we have pretty much been in this same situation throughout our entire relationship.

But she maintains that she hopes we are still in love in August so we can get back together then. It's so confusing

Edit: One of our big points in fighting since this all happened has been that she is going to her senior prom with someone else, but claims he means nothing to her, she just thought it would be awkward if I went with her since I'm in college.

LittleBlackKat · Mar 12, 2013, 10:45 AM

I see tons of University students and college students taking their partner with them to their prom , etc. That's not really an excuse. My personal opinion: If she is not comfortable with taking you to her senior prom, she is not comfortable with you at all. That's just what it spells out to me.

She sounds very confused and immature. I'd strongly think about cutting off all ties for good because she's just tangling you into her own web of confusion. Do you really want that? Think about it. You already stated that she is not making sense. Why let her drag you into her confusion? Find someone else who is mature and mentally stable to have a relationship, or do without one for a while and focus your time on better things.

fredg · Mar 12, 2013, 11:01 AM

This is her way of saying, "It's over". I was 22 yrs old in college when I got a "dear john" letter from my girlfriend. saying she was "in love". I thought she was in love with me!
It's really hard, getting over someone, but you can do it. If you are really in love with her, being just friends is out of the question for most people. If you can handle it, go for it. If not, then move on. Be honest, and respectful, and meet some new girls. Good luck.