[Plzhelpthismom]

I married my husband 9 1/2 years ago and we had 2 children together. We separted in May of 2005 because of his heroin addiction. The children have always been with me and until last summer he had no contact with them ( partially because of a protection order preventing him from contact until 2009). He now lives down the street and the only contact he has had with them is because I practically forced him to do so (they asked to meet their father). He has seen them 3 or 4 times in passing since then but doesn't really acknowledge them. I am wanting to seek a divorce but he does not want one. He argues he will ask for visitation or even custody and I do not want him to have either (unless its supervised). I can't afford a costly battle which is what he claims he will put me in.He receives Disability checks so I receive payments via that for child support so that isn't an issue. Any suggestions?

[JudyKayTee]

Retain an Attorney and file for divorce. Ask for supervised visitation and prove that he is somehow a danger to the children. He can ask for anything he wants to ask for. Whether he will "get it" remains to be seen.

This is a pretty standard threat - a parent who has no interest in the child but holds custody/visitation over the head of the other parent as a constant threat.

I wouldn't let him bully me like this.