[Darkcloud617]

Is it wrong to ask for a phone call if your
Fiancé is running late? As in 'its going
To be a couple more hours' when hanging out
With friends?

[joypulv]

No, it isn't wrong.
If he or she doesn't, you calmly let him know how you feel. If it happens again, you try again, no yelling or accusing. If it happens again, you go get under the covers and decide if it's time to break up.
Just how serious is the fiancé part? Plans, money saved?

[Darkcloud617]

No, it isn't wrong.
If he or she doesn't, you calmly let him know how you feel. If it happens again, you try again, no yelling or accusing. If it happens again, you go get under the covers and decide if it's time to break up.
Just how serious is the fiance part? Plans, money saved?

We are serious, we have been together over two
Years and have a child. I have talked to her
Numerous times about it and she says that its
Just trust issues, I see it as mutual respect.

[Darkcloud617]

Anyone else have advice? I just want a few
Opinions to see if I am in the wrong or right.

[teacherjenn4]

Anyone else have advice? I just want a few
opinions to see if i am in the wrong or right.

You're in the right. A phone call is common courtesy.

[dontknownuthin]

It's common courtesy when anyone might be worried about you or waiting for you or expecting you to call them and let them know that you are running late. It's also common courtesy not to BE late unless it cannot be avoided. As in, if he's choosing to leave you waiting for and worrying about him, he's choosing to do two offensive things - blow off the commitment he made to you to be somewhere at a given time, and blowing off the courtesy to let you know he won't be there. This sounds like a really immature guy. And my guess is he's out "with the boys at the bar". So, I'll go for the extra credit and also offer up that if a guy is mature enough to contemplate getting married, he should be matured beyond going out to the bars with the boys without his significant other.

He sounds childish if you even have to ask this - not only inconsiderate, but apparently trying to make you feel like you're being ridiculous to expect your fiancé to treat you with the common courtesy owed a stranger.

How would that behavior go over with his grandparents if he were expected for dinner? How about his boss? A customer? Do his buddies go along with him making plans with them, then just leaving them waiting for him for several hours?

This is more than discourtesy - it's proof that he does not respect you or your feelings, does not consider you a priority and has a "ball and chain" attitude going into your marriage. Cut him loose and find a grown up to marry.

[Fr_Chuck]

A phone call should be expected,

[joypulv]

Especially if you are home taking care of the child.