[celinatorro]

Hello everyone. So I broke up with my boyfriend for many reasons one being the fact that right now I need to focus on my studies. I'm 23 and I'm a med student, I've been so distracted with my relationship this semester I didn't do well in my classes. My future career is everything to me.

Two, he's younger than I am, he's 19 I'd be doing him a favor, he needs to be doing whatever he wants not being stuck with me. I'm convenient for him, we live down the block from each other and we do have tons of fun but I know he can find that with someone else.
Lastly, where will this really go? I'm Indian and my family are Christians strict and his family are Pakistani Muslims. I know that shouldn't matter at all and it doesn't to us now but in the future it will matter when it comes to raising a family and dealing with our families accepting us.

I know it's probably for the best, for both of us but I feel extremely awful and hurt. I know I've hurt him as well because he's so upset about it I mean he told me to never text him or talk to him again. It feels so wrong and I know you can't give me answers but did I make an overall good decision? Why is he acting like this is only hard for him?

[talaniman]

What do you expect from a heart broken youngster who just got dumped and doesn't understand why??

Leave him alone and let him learn to deal with his heart break. Some day he may understand how hard this was on you, but that may be a long time in the future.

[fredg]

I am 70 yrs old, married for 7 yrs, divorced in 1975, then remarried for 30 years. My wife died 6 years ago from smoking; bad lungs.
I have been through breakups also. At 23, I received a "Dear John" letter from my girlfriend while attending the U of FL, working on my first Bachelor's Degree. You have many years of schooling ahead of you in medicine, also in internship, etc. You don't need this!
I agree with you fully about breaking up with him. There is also the problem of your two different religions; which may or may not cause family problems in the future. I am with you 100% about breaking up, moving on, and concentrating on your school. He will be fine, as soon as he gets over feeling sorry for himself. I do wish you the best, and hope you have a great New Year.

[ArmstrongMiller]

I am sorry to hear that...

[jazzas]

Mixed blessings that's all , who's god is best , well I know there are over 80 religions in the world at present , best to have none , enjoy your studies something else will turn up, muslim can only marry muslim

[Homegirl 50]

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.
Tal is so right. He is young and hurt. Leave him alone so he can heal.
Good luck with your career.

[Fr_Chuck]

When you break up, stopping all contact, not emailing, not texting, taking them off friends on Facebook, is actually our advice here normally. You stop all contact and get over them. So do the same and just move on with you life