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masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 10:28 AM

Hello my girl is 20 an I'm 22 we being in a relationship for 3 years and 3 months. She never lied to me, she expressed me love for the entire 3 years, she goes to church, work and school very cute, sentimental person. We love each other... I left the hometown for an engineering internship for 6 1/2 months we texted a lot,but our relationship wasn't that good... it's been hard for both of us because we saw each other like 3 times during that internship period an now I'm returning to hometown this Friday, and she told me she wants time(I will give her space and do the NC), that really hurts. She's very honest and she told me, she's veryy confused about what she wants in life, that she wants 2 months to think not to look for other people, but to think what she wants in life and goals. She told me that this part of the relationship. Especially she remark to be ALONE.

Before that we talked about marriage, our plans together, promises like any other love story, she solved most of the problems we had, maybe she got tired of that, But she's said she still loves me a lot and miss me. She told me to be positive and strong. That she needs to think, because she was very focused on me and my achievements and not on herself.

But my question is: isn't the 6 months apart enough? And now she wants time?

Don't get me wrong I will give her time and I will focus on me, but she said 2 months. She cried, she lost 3lb I think depression don't know yet

She's been through a lot with their family, finances, our problems, etc.. She has pressures for everywhere
I never had any major personal problem.

This Friday I will see her face to face... I think she will just confirm the start of our break... she said she is very confused, but gave me some kind of hope through text what should I do?

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 10:41 AM

Why are you two meeting on Friday? Hasn't the NC started already?

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 10:51 AM

I haven't see her in since November... and she just told me this Sunday about the break

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 10:55 AM

So what is to be accomplished by meeting? Sounds like it will be a downer and confusing for both of you, since she is reassessing her life apart from you.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 11:19 AM

So she can be honest that she really want me to wait 2 months or she's just want to end things easy... or end things that day

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

so she can be honest that she really want me to wait 2 months or she's just want to end things easy... or end things that day

That's not a good reason to meet with her. You're hoping she will change her mind and not do the break. Give her the two months. No Contact. Then meet with her to hope she has her act together. If she wants to get together during these two months, tell her very briefly, "No. We are on a break from each other now."

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 12:48 PM

True that, do you know any couple that reuniites after the break?

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 12:56 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

True that, do you know any couple that reuniites after the break?

No.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 01:36 PM

:(

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 01:46 PM

Give her the two weeks. If you muddy it by an approach-avoidance, talking-not talking thing, she will remain confused. Let this play out without your contacting her, and maybe I will make you two the first on my list of success stories.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 02:02 PM

Aww, she insists that she needs 2 months, 2 weeks its not enough

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 02:03 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

aww, she insists that she needs 2 months, 2 weeks its not enough

I'm sorry -- I misquoted you. (I said it right in an earlier post.) Yes, give her the two months.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 02:08 PM

Thanks a lot! Will keep posted

fredg · Dec 19, 2012, 06:35 PM

The only thing you can do is to listen to her, talk with her, and hear what she has to say. She may want to break off things, or might want to have more time. She is confused, and may or may not be in love now. Please be patient. If this is meant to happen, it will eventually. If not, then you will have to move on. But, give her all the time she needs. I wish you the best.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 06:48 PM

While I wait until Friday I should not text her? Nc?

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 07:09 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

While I wait until friday I should not text her? Nc?

Who set up Friday to meet, you or her?

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 07:22 PM

Me, she agreed

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 07:23 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

Me, she agreed

Bad idea.

masaldana2 · Dec 19, 2012, 07:45 PM

Isn't different when face to fface? I haven't seen her in a month a month we were perfect

Wondergirl · Dec 19, 2012, 07:55 PM

Originally Posted by masaldana2

Isn't different when face to fface? I haven't seen her in a month a month we were perfect

She asked for a two-month break. If you see her on Friday, you will restart the clock and won't gain anything, but will make her cry and get both of you even more confused and feeling bad. Total No Contact.