[ryandgem]

My girlfriend wants to have a 3 sum with a girl as she wants to try it once but only wants to do it with someone we don't know any help

[Synnen]

Oy.

Have the two of you had a conversation about EXACTLY what you would like from a threesome? Have you talked about repercussions for things like an unplanned pregnancy in your third? Or birth control? Or diseases?

What about if one of you is uncomfortable and wants to stop, but the other doesn't?

Is there ABSOLUTE trust and honesty in your relationship? Can you tell her when you are attracted to other women? Can she talk to you about her attraction to women (otherwise---why is she doing this? That's ANOTHER conversation to have--if she's not bisexual, what is her motivation?)?

Would you do this in your bed, where you have your most intimate interactions together?

To have a threesome that will not ruin your relationship, you should start having some conversations about the NOT exciting parts of having a threesome. You should talk about YOUR relationship, and both of your expectations, and you should actually try scripting it and seeing how you feel about that script.

And all of this BEFORE you even bring in the third.

Once you bring in the third, you need to have the conversations all over again, because unless you are hiring a hooker for this, she'll have HER OWN expectations and wishes for an intimate encounter. In other words--it's not a blow up doll to just go along with your script, but a live woman with her own thoughts and feelings.

[ryandgem]

Done all the talking just finding the woman

[excon]

Hello r:

Well, you go to a bar, and slide up along side some cute chick, and say, "Come here often?".

excon

[Oliver2011]

I agree.

OY!

[ryandgem]

Didn't work

[joypulv]

Tell HER to find the woman. This is her idea and you want to make sure it stays her idea.
A lot can go wrong on the emotional front as stated above.

[Synnen]

Great! Go to Vegas and hire one.

That's the ONLY way you are going to get a complete stranger to go to bed with the two of you.

[Enigma1999]

Just be careful. There are a lot of scary people out there.

[Oliver2011]

Tell HER to find the woman. This is her idea and you want to make sure it stays her idea.
A lot can go wrong on the emotional front as stated above.

I agree with joypulv (on most things really)... If my partner wanted a threesome that would signal me that there was something wrong, lacking, etc (you pick the word and enter it here _________). Plus the emotional baggage of seeing someone else touching my partner. No way. Ain't going to do it. It wouldn't be prudent.

There are other ways to spice up the sex life without bringing a stranger to it.

[Enigma1999]

I agree with joypulv (on most things really)... If my partner wanted a threesome that would signal me that there was something wrong, lacking, etc (you pick the word and enter it here _________). Plus the emotional baggage of seeing someone else touching my partner. No way. Ain't going to do it. It wouldn't be prudent.

There are other ways to spice up the sex life without bringing a stranger to it.

Agreed!

[Cat1864]

Going to a brothel in Nevada is probably your safest course of action.

1. The women have no expectations of the threesome reoccurring. No emotions involved, at least on their part.

2. They are tested for diseases. Anyone you try to pick up or meet through an ad could be lying through their teeth about whether they have any stds/stis.

Frankly, this is the type of fantasy that I prefer to keep as fantasy.

You have said this is what your girlfriend wants, but is it what you want? Don't allow her to talk you into anything you aren't comfortable with. There are risks to consider beyond her deciding she likes sex with females more or the stranger having herpes. If you are expecting to have intercourse with the other female, remember that no form of birth control is 100% effective and Nature seems to enjoy surprising people.

[dontknownuthin]

I'm sure most men would agree to this idea because it's such a common sexual fantasy. However, are you going to be able to stay in a committed relationship with a woman who includes other women in her sexual fantasies? Do you have any concerns that she might be bi? Can you feel comfortable that this random person that you don't know won't have a disease, or won't later blackmail you, or pull a gun on you or rob you?

This sounds like something, to me, that should remain a fantasy - something where maybe you rent a movie together and watch and imagine the scene but don't actually do it.

Just make sure before you consent to this that it's what you want, too. You can say "no", which in my view is the only safe thing to do. I'm trying to think of what type of woman would agree to have a random threesome with a couple she doesn't know - I don't know any emotionally stable, normal women who would be open to the idea so would be very concerned about who this person is and the ramifications of getting involved with them.

I can't believe I'm agreeing with this but if you're both dead set on doing this, I agree you should go to a legal brothel. The women get paid so expect nothing more, they get regular medical care, they use condoms and they aren't likely to blackmail, rob or murder you. You couldn't pay me enough to go through with such a thing, but we're all different in what we like and want!

[Fr_Chuck]

Is she want threesome or just sex wlth girl,my answer depends on that, if just other girl and you OK with it, let her try , but not threesome