[smrekha09]

Hello all,
I am a new member of this community... I had come across this community while looking for the answer to my question in life... I might bore you with my story as it's been a 5yr story... Well to state my problem...

I have become a victim of so-called one-sided love... which kills a person to core... I met this guy on the 1st day of my Job... we joined together,got to know each other and started sharing a relation more than just a colleague... we were Good friends there on... One day I realized that I have fallen for him madly and gone crazy... till date I could not think of a reason why I love him so much and have fallen for him... I told him about my feelings... he took it casually and told me honestly that he could not see me more than a friend and since we spoke different languages, his Mom would not accept me as she is orthodox and would not accept any girl from another community...

I was OK thinking I can convince him as I knew how much he values my relation... I used to keep talking about my feelings to him over phone and msgn so he slowly started ignoring me... experienced lot of hurtings and tears... one day I get to know he is going around with another girl from the same Process who is of his community... I could not take it only... that night I cried in the cab itself till I reached home... it was like almost every person in office knew about my feelings for him now when he started going around with another... I could not explain... so embarrassing it was to go to office and see them together... I had stopped talking to him all these while... but I knew that the girl he was with is a flirt, not sure how he fell for her, but I knew he was true in his feelings...

as days passed... she showed her true color ditched him, quit the Job and returned to her home town, got married and settled... in between he was promoted, I moved through a different process... but when I knew that he was broken, I called him up after a long time... spoke to him, consoled him as I could not see him like this... though he did not accept my love, we were friends once... then again we started speaking normally... so tried my luck this time by asking if he felt my love... he said no, and he was indeed surprised that I had the feelings for him even after 3years... he said Im getting deeper into my feelings, I can always be your good friend and not more than that... if you need we can be friends, if not I shall stop talking to you... I told him I cannot be like that... so he stopped talking...

now its almost 2 years he stopped talking... from then I did not get a chance to see him often.. even If we get to see each other we would not talk... but I message him whenever I would feel like talking to him... have not got a single response till now... I introduced him to my sister when we were friends... so they know each other and they are good friends... he had come for my sis wedding, He had come home to see my sister when she was back after her baby shower...

That's when I had a shock of my life the 2nd time... He said he is getting engaged in a week... I was so unsure on how to react in front of my sis and parents... I just walked away from there... he came again even to see my sister's baby... then he was already engaged... he was showing his would-be photo to my sis and my Mom... he also told his marriage is on Jan 31st 2013. I was speechless... it was OK for me when he didn't accept my love... but he could have at least thought how it hurted when he was happily sharing the pic and telling them about the marriage... he is least bothered... I wonder if he would no how much Im suffering after hearing that...

He is still not spoken to me... I wonder if he would ever... Im so confused and lost... its 5yrs I have been in love with him... so much of hurtings and tears... at the end I have waited 5yrs for nothing... still not able to forget him... its like even if he comes back to me, the next sec I will go behind him... but this one side feeling sucks... you have everything to give... but the other person is not ready to take it... Im struggling to sleep every night... I stay awake till 3 or even 4 every day... his memories are killing me so much... I wish he just knows how bad Im feeling... :(:(:(

[caringnandu]

Hey I'm sorry 4 what happened... bt your love... so great.. I salute..
Yeah 5 yrs onesided love might be sucking you up. Bt I think you need a little time..
First of all please stop crying... my sister
I would garaunty you you would be fine... jst need someone to share with. The question is: do you really love him?
If yes then you might be always be caring for him.you get happy when see him happy. You might be ready to sacrifice anything for him... right?
Then dear realise its your sacrifice to see him happy. You are showing the strength of your love...
Don't try to forget him , by this you will get more emotional.. Just try to see him happy,see how good is he feeling... surely you would forget your sorrows.. be a part of his happines... consider that might be he would get happy seeing this way of your... and what is the only aim of our (u and meboth) loves heart to them happy... so forget your sorrows.. try
Boy is very nice... he is like me...
He is hurting you... Evertime... he is making you sad... for what?
Hey the boy does so, so that you might hate him and would forget him. Try to see his care ,his soft feelings behind rude fsce... he just wants you to forget him so that you might get happy in future.. he cares for you but we boys are shamed of showing it... so just try.. I know its not easy bt it's the only way... I faced it sister.. So came to help u... and please for mysake attend his weddings and thank him for being rude(indeed caring) to you... and you might get a chace to dance with him...
So exciting... yeah my advice is also piercing your heart.. but I called you sister so listen to this17 years old fool once... I might pray that you might get a boy who deserve this love... :> and keep smiling.. best way to keep yourself happy...

[smrekha09]

Thank you so much Nandu for your advice... yeah I agree with you... I still love him and would want him to see happy forever... if that is the life he thinks can keep him happy... let him go ahead... My intention was never to spoil his happiness... I agree its all past and part of life... even I know he can't hate me ever... he is just trying so much that I would start to hate him... which is not happening... so he has ignored me now completely... I just hate this feeling that we both can't be together... :(

[caringnandu]

Thank you so much Nandu for your advice........yeah I agree with you.....I still love him and would want him to see happy forever......if that is the life he thinks can keep him happy....let him go ahead.....My intention was never to spoil his happiness.....I agree its all past and part of life.......even I know he can't hate me ever....he is just trying so much that I would start to hate him....which is not happening.....so he has ignored me now completely.......i just hate this feeling that we both can't be together..............:(

So nice of you

[caringnandu]

so nice of you

You seem to be not so unlucky...
Yeah life has ups-down agreed... but have passion to fly... and surely you b in sky...
When my time was bad I didn't know about this site...
But listen... bcoz of small mistake of mine I had to see my love facing death... god saved her or it was my love... but it's the most dreadful exp in life...
Just get mentally setteled...
And thanks for listening dear sister

[caringnandu]

Thank you so much Nandu for your advice........yeah I agree with you.....I still love him and would want him to see happy forever......if that is the life he thinks can keep him happy....let him go ahead.....My intention was never to spoil his happiness.....I agree its all past and part of life.......even I know he can't hate me ever....he is just trying so much that I would start to hate him....which is not happening.....so he has ignored me now completely.......i just hate this feeling that we both can't be together..............:(

Feelings or love not in our hands
But who said u can't b together...
Is it necessary to live together to b together..
Dear, if this was true than all couples i.e. Married would b together...
For me feelings,emotions... and CARE means to b together
About u I need not say but for him he might think of you often,yeah care for u but not show his emotions at all... bt even then...
His heart would beat for u
Might b that two bodies can't b together... but your soul forever for together... sorry for boring you...
Hey I M WITH YOU...