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aleksandra1 · Dec 3, 2012, 09:21 AM

Hi everyone,

I feel strange. I am 18 and I've lost my virginity recently, but to a boy I didn't really love at all. He was my neighbour, basically, and he was just so good-looking... but this whole society makes losing virginity to be such a big deal, saying I will regret it, hate myself, feel used etc. etc. Well, I don't. At all. I just... felt ready, wanted to do it, didn't want to wait and in the end, I liked it. And what if we are not together? I know it will be special with someone I love, but there is no-one like that just now. And it will be better, even if I won't be a virgin anymore, right? It felt great the way it was but I feel so weird for not feeling any shame, guilt, regret, nothing like that.

Am I normal? Did anyone feel the same way or is it just me being totally rotten with no morals??

Oliver2011 · Dec 3, 2012, 09:27 AM

Live and learn... You are allowed to feel how you want to feel and you are allowed to do whatever you want to do. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

joypulv · Dec 3, 2012, 09:28 AM

You have managed to evade thousands of years of protective societies and hundreds of years of parental and religious values based on that same protectiveness. It made sense then, and in most of the world, it still does. If you feel free of guilt and shame, more power to you.

hheath541 · Dec 3, 2012, 12:01 PM

The emphasis on virginity most likely started as a way to ensure a woman's first child belonged to her husband, to control hereditary property. It was also a way to control and own women, who sold by their fathers into marriage with the richest man who wanted her.

As long as you enjoyed yourself and made an informed and mature decision, there's no reason to have regrets. Would losing your virginity to someone you loved lessen the value of sex with future partners? Past sexual history should ONLY matter from a health standpoint. Having a sexual past doesn't lessen your sexual future.

CravenMorhead · Dec 3, 2012, 12:22 PM

Congratulations.

It's your body and your life. If you feel no guilt or remose for it than what's the problem. You're the one that has to live with this for the rest of your life. If it isn't a problem or issue for you than awesome.

A lot of the hubbub about virginity is not relevant in modern day society. With proper conception techniques, you used birth control and a condom right? there is nothing morally wrong with exploring your sexuality in any way you want with any consenting adult. It is when you get into a relationship where you need to consider the wants and expectations of your mate.