[trishiacarter]

So I've been daiting my boyfriend for just over a year and we have has our ups and downs, he cheated on me in the past but we got over that and there hasn't been a problem since but when I was at work the other day he went to the strippers with his dad. I have been telling him my feeling about it and how I didn't like it. We got into a fight the other night and nearly broke up. I tried to get him to promise me to not go again till he's were at least older but he won't because 'i don't understand'.

[Oliver2011]

How old are you two?

Going with his dad is probably more harmless than going with a frat buddy or whomever.

Although if you are strongly against it he should respect your wishes. I have never understood the whole cheating thing. If you are willing to cheat, why be in the relationship you are in? I just don't get it.

[Wondergirl]

You won't like it when you two are older either. Liked Oliver said, be glad he was with his dad.

[Fr_Chuck]

So you don't like it, he likes it, I guess the issue is why should he stop if he does not want to,
Why do you feel he has to stop. Do you stop anything he wants you to stop doing.

Strippers are not having sex, ( real strip places they don't have sex with men anyway)
They look, nothing more.
All that your demands will do, is make him lie to you

[backpack2389]

If he has cheated on you and is the kind of man who would regularly go to strips clubs (when you have a problem with that), why are you with him? It sounds like you have some fundamental issues. No trust because of past cheating and behavior which suggests you'll have a lot of worry and doubt coming to you in the future. He doesn't seem like he's ready for a relationship and maybe will never be able to maintain the type of relationship you're looking for. I don't think you two are a good match.

[trishiacarter]

Yes he tells me every time were out "hope your not checking out any guys" and "hope you dont talk yo Nyone" and "hope you dont do anything" but yet its conpletely okay for him to? No