[missimene]

We have been dating for 7 months and we truly loved each other but we broke up a month ago because of some fights! It wasn't a big deal but we both got angry and we are the kind of people who never get back together with their ex! I wanted to tell him that I loved him and wanted him back but my pride wouldn't let me do it and same for him! He is the kind of guy who doesn't like to have sex with different partners and he is so picky concerning girls so it"s not easy for him to find a girlfriend so we decided to be "sexual partners" and best friends.. We still hang out and do all the things we used to do when we were together but we are not a couple! I can't understand this situation, friends with benefits are not supposed to love each other but we do and we still tell each other all the time :( I"m really confused and so is he! Should I try to get him back (it"s so hard for me to do so) or should i just move on and try to stay away from him ( this is harder coz i love him so much and i know he loves me back) Please tell me what to do!!
P.S: I"m 20 ans he"s 22.

[Fr_Chuck]

You don't even know him in 7 months, and already having fights like that. Personally I would say move on. Second I would say stop that silly rule,

Over 20 years my first wife, must have left me to go to her mother 7 or 8 times, I helped throw things in the car a few times. Often leaving for a day or two is just a cooling off period, if you will not consider trying to get back, you have closed the door on any future relationship at some point

[Bluntress]

I think young lovers, before gaining some wisdom in relationships, fall into the pit of trivial "rules" and "principles." There are some rules you should set for yourself such as "no alcoholics," but the rule of "not going back with an ex - or pretty much, changing your mind" is ridiculous even in the realm of other situations. You shouldn't break up for silly arguments. They're just arguments after all, every single healthy relationship has them. But breaking up is an indication that you do not wish to "try" any longer in this relationship because you do not believe it is worth it. However, you've gotten back with him without the "title" of girlfriend. This obviously bothers both of you and you must talk to him about your thoughts and feelings. If HE refuses to put any effort into having a stable relationship with you, then you need to move on because despite your "love/attachment" for each other, the maturity levels are not even and trust me, you have the ability to love another if not many. You don't have to choose him to keep loving.