[keelybell]

Hi guys, Ive been doing my head in over the past few weeks and was suggested this site for a broader point of view. Cut to the chase, I've been dating a guy for 14 months now, it is long distance, about 3 hours apart, we talk daily, we see each other on weekends, which is great.From day one we were hopeful of this going long term, marriage babies etc, the dream we all have, However, now I start to question it all. Ove the past few months when I talk about the future all I get in response is "you never know" or "we'll see", a little different to how it was about 6 months ago. I feel a little flat by it, but he does always say "of course i see our future". The thing is, he left his wife for me, his wife knows who I am etc, you know the druill there. She hates me, which I'm OK with that. Anyway, his daughters birthday is this weekend and I thought I could take or get invited there so she could ashare this occasion. How wrong when my partner said NO. Its only for school friends, oh and the fact the ex was going to be there, cmon my daughter is a little girl, why not let her go, considering my partner says we have a future together? I feel very offended because I feel he is letting the EX control the situation, after 14 months its still like this. He then suggested after the party he would travel here or he said I could travel there, I was considering avoiding him the weekend. He won't even let his ex pick there daughter up form his place when I'm there, his response, he feels uncomfotable and weird about it, because I'm there. Is this an issue or should I not worry.

[teacherjenn4]

I'm only going to comment about his child: There should be no drama at her party or at pick-ups/drop-offs. She is already going through turmoil due to her parents splitting up, because of you. You are not his wife, so you do not need to attend the party. He is trying to avoid unnecessary trauma to his child. At least he is doing something correctly.