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chrisisruff · Mar 9, 2007, 01:12 PM

Hey All,
My G/f broke up with me last week. After not talking to me for a few days she started talking somewhat. Now she said were going out again. But she said she needs a few days alone. Cause of what I did and she deserves it. So anytime I try to call her she doesn't talk gets angry and hangs up. But then she calls my family like everything is normal and tells them were going out. So I called her today and she was all cold to me and told me she will call me. She calls me later to complain about her shoes I lost so I asked her if we are still going to the movies 2morow and she said yes...

Im so confused if were going out why the cold shoulder
Why does she not want me to call for a few days?
What can it be

tishee_76 · Mar 9, 2007, 03:04 PM

Hi Chris,
It's just the way some of us deal with our feelings sometimes, or rather not deal with it.
A couple of questions though, How old are the two of you and what was it that you did that's making her feel so wishy washy?

chrisisruff · Mar 9, 2007, 04:44 PM

I'm 26 and she's 21. We got into a heated argument and I grabbed her jacket and there was a pair of boots in my care of hers that I threw outside the car... We have plans 2morow to go to the movies and I'm scad about the way she's going to act around me...

tishee_76 · Mar 9, 2007, 05:03 PM

Oh.. That sounds like a pearler argument but not really anything to owe a life debt to..
How long yous been seeing each other? Are you like totally into her? Cos if you are, I reckon some direct communication could be in order or it sounds like this is going nowhere fast..
Why are you worried about her wanting her own space.. are you suspecting she's sniffing around elsewhere?
Oh, and one more, did you spend a lot of time with each other previously?

chrisisruff · Mar 9, 2007, 05:07 PM

We have dated for 2 yrs 3 months. I am into her totally. I never had doubt about her sniffing around but I am kind of worried that she's only 21 and might want to try new things... Im just not sure

tishee_76 · Mar 9, 2007, 05:23 PM

Ah yes, just reading your other posts..
Well I got to congratulate you for going the distance and asking for directions!
You obviously want this.

Maybe...
Has anything been discussed recently about ccccc.. ccommitment?
Like living arrangements, joint loans, engagement, children... etc
She does sound a little confused within herself..
Like, she's cold then hot.. Isolates you but embraces your family..
It's like she wants you but something has made her a little unsure..
It's either her own perception of the relationship or something done or discussed...
Maybe..

RubyPitbull · Mar 9, 2007, 05:26 PM

Chris, I just saw this post after the last other one you did. Sounds like she is a lot more mature than you, my dear. She will get over this but you can't do stuff like that, man. Not good at all. If you have a disagreement, you need to talk it out. Reactive stuff like throwing things out the car and taking her jacket is very childish. If you really love her, you need to act like a responsible man.

I didn't realize you were dating her as long as you have. At this point in your relationship and at your age, you should be past that kind of stuff. You need to think about how you are treating her and stop what you are doing if you don't want to lose her.

chrisisruff · Mar 9, 2007, 05:32 PM

Heyy RubyPitbull I have to agree with u with certain things I do fall imature with. I will act totally responsible from here on in . I just hope its not to late now. What I mean is if she's always going to remember this and affect the way she feels about the relationship..

tishee_76 · Mar 9, 2007, 05:50 PM

Very true RubyPitbull,
It may actually be a lack of discussions about commitment and maturaty that's bothering her..
Good point!

tishee_76 · Mar 9, 2007, 05:56 PM

Anyway chrisisruff I do hope the movies go well and what ever the outcome, it be mutual.
Best Wishes..

chrisisruff · Mar 9, 2007, 05:58 PM

Thanks

tishee_76 · Mar 15, 2007, 08:49 AM

Hi chrisisruff
How did the date go?
Been looking for an update to see how things went for you both..

chrisisruff · Mar 16, 2007, 12:32 PM

Hey Tishee_76, sooo last Saturday I picked Anna up around 12pm we went o mcdonalds than the movies. Everything was great after the movies we went o my house watched TV for a few house. I went to pick up food at a local turkish restaurant we ate watched more TV and then I took her home at about 3 am on the way home I took her to a parking lot to let her drive for a little bit. Everything went great it hards to understand that the other day she wanted space but up until now everything has been great... Hope it stays that way lol and thanks for the concern. How is everything with you??

tishee_76 · Mar 18, 2007, 05:38 AM

I am so stoked for you!

tishee_76 · Mar 18, 2007, 05:50 AM

I can see the gentleman in you even if that night of the argument was a little messed up.. The fact you can admit you acted a little hasty and harsh, seek advice and try to make it up to anna is so refreshing to hear.. Its lovely to know there's males around that still want solid relationships and are prepared to put the effort in.. I'm sure if you two continue to relax and enjoy each other, both of you will be rewarded with a life time of wonderful memories.. Been thinking of yous lots so thanks for answering back.. Hope to see you around the tracks.. Tish