[lionsden123456]

I just ended a 12 month relationship. I am trying to make heads and tails of the whole experience but seem to be coming up a bit short with the answers. Right from the start we knew there was something special between us. We moved gradually in the beginning but over time relationship intensified and grew stronger and stronger. I was a bit reluctant at first to date a women from a divorce with young children but over time I was able to look past her situation and trully believed we had a chance down the road.

While we only saw each other once or twice a week we talked every night and could communicate perfectly with one another, had fantastic chemistry, shared many great experiences, and bonded on so many levels. She had come from modest beginnings but married young to a man with tremendous wealth and financial resources. Her life was predictable and she never had to deal with financial stress. At the same time her life was empty, her marriage was empty, and she lacked passion, excitement, communication, and enjoyment in her marriage. I filled her life with everything that was missing but could not come close to providng the lifestyle she previously had in her marriage.

Over the past few months a series of events with her living situation caused her to vacate her house and move back in with her ex-husband. She was close to moving back out of his house but ultimately decided to stay. I have to move on but the whole experience troubles me. Was I wrong to date her in the first place? I am trying to grasp the learning experience here.

[Fr_Chuck]

Never wrong if she was divorced and if she had been over ex. Looks like he used his money to get her to move back in, once that happened, it was just a matter of time.

Why did she not move in with you instead?

[lionsden123456]

I am guessing a few reasons. I had never meet her kids... I am guessing it was from fear from complications with her alimony. Second she thought it was a temporary situation where she could easily regroup since she had to quickly vacate her house before moving in with the ex.

Why would a women her mother call to end a relationship?

Why would a women in her mid 30-s have her mother bear the bad news to end a year long relationship rather than the person I was dating? I had meet the mother only once and the women I had dated did not listen to her mother for guidance and decision advice. It's been a few weeks and I have moved on but it still bothers me that I did not get the news from the person I was dating. This seems to me very cowardly and weak especially when we had such a strong relationship.

[Wondergirl]

Apparently the relationship wasn't as strong as you thought it was.

[talaniman]

I think she used you to some extent, and there was a whole lot you didn't know about her. You didn't know what a coward she was for example.