How can I help him get over his ex?

bombon · Sep 8, 2012, 12:16 PM

So theirs this guy and he's my best friend and I like him but he can't get over his ex and he wants to be he has 3 or 4 classes with her how can I help him get over her and tell him I like him?

Hennali · Sep 8, 2012, 02:25 PM

I went through this about 10 years ago with my best friend. Except it was the other way around I was trying to get over my ex. Anyway, we started dating and ended up realizing we should have remained friends. He was my closest friend we did everything together for years before we dated. However, after dating it was awkward and impossible to go back to just friends.
I would give him the time to get over her. Be there as his best friend. It's never good to start a relationship with someone who isn't over their ex IMO. Good luck!

Homegirl 50 · Sep 8, 2012, 03:31 PM

You can't do anything. He obviously wants her, not you.
Mind your own business and leave him alone.

bombon · Sep 8, 2012, 03:37 PM

Originally Posted by Hennali

i went through this about 10 years ago with my best friend. Except it was the other way around I was trying to get over my ex. Anyway, we started dating and ended up realizing we should have remained friends. He was my closest friend we did everything together for years before we dated. However, after dating it was awkward and impossible to go back to just friends.
I would give him the time to get over her. Be there as his best friend. It's never good to start a relationship with someone who isn't over their ex IMO. Good luck!

Thanks and I will consider doing it.but he wants to get over her but he has her in her classes.

bombon · Sep 8, 2012, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You can't do anything. He obviously wants her, not you.
Mind your own business and leave him alone.

He told me that he wants to forget her and I'm asking what should I do and you did not help with it!!

Homegirl 50 · Sep 8, 2012, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by bombon

thanks and i will consider doing it.but he wants to get over her but he has her in her classes.

There is nothing you can do about it. This is something he has to do on his own and as long as he wants her, you can't make him want you.

bombon · Sep 8, 2012, 03:47 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

There is nothing you can do about it. This is something he has to do on his own and as long as he wants her, you can't make him want you.

I'm not making him like me!! And HE asked me to help himmmm.!

Hennali · Sep 8, 2012, 05:09 PM

Just be there for him as his friend. Once he is over her then you can tell him how you feel.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 8, 2012, 05:21 PM

Originally Posted by bombon

he told me that he wants to forget her and im asking wat should i do and u did not help with it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I did. I told you not to do anything. There isn't anything you can do.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 8, 2012, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by bombon

im not makeing him like me !!!!!!!!!!! and HE asked me to help himmmm.!!!!!

What is it he wants you to do? Maybe you should be asking him this.

bombon · Sep 9, 2012, 12:37 AM

Originally Posted by Hennali

just be there for him as his friend. once he is over her then you can tell him how you feel.

But this summer he told he he loved me and I told hime I loved him to and we started school and know he sees his ex and does what she does.he wants to get over her but he wants me to help and I don't know how I can..

bombon · Sep 9, 2012, 12:40 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

What is it he wants you to do? Maybe you should be asking him this.

He says he can't say how to help