[Friedchicken9]

I just recently got into a relationship with this really awesome girl. She really sweet and really caring. Awesome person. However, I have a lot of baggage.

I grew up with a lot of insecurities with people, family, and friends telling what I can and can not do. I guess I was kind of the black sheep of the family. It took me years to force myself out of that mindset that I was nothing. I actually have accomplished way more of my dreams/goals than all of those naysayers.

However, I know that the scars of my past still haunt me.

I am really scared that I am going to lose my girlfriend because I think she will soon realize that I am not as cool as her.

I just recently got into doing the things that I wanted to do when I was a kid. She on the other hand is one of the most confident girls I have ever met in my life so she tells me about her snowboarding trips or rock climbling activities.

I just think that is so cool. I always wanted to do those activities. I am sure she would excited for me. I am just insecure that I am not good enough for her. She seems to have her life in order. I on the otherhand is still discovering myself and fighting these insecurities of mine.

She obviously likes me. She is really sweet and caring. The only thing that I do well though is not being afraid to show her how much I like her as well. So, I surprise her. I am really affectionate. She always told me that I am the sweetest boy she has ever met. So, I have no reason to feel this way but I feel that in due time she is going to find someone better and I am going to get hurt.

How do I shake this feeling that I am not good enough for her? I don't want to lose her because of this...

[C0bra_M3nace]

"Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind".

You need to be yourself and be honest. If she truly loves you, no amount of baggage will affect her relationship with you. If she can't handle who you are, then she's not worth being with anyway.

For now, stop worrying about something that may never happen. Focus on the relationship and her, not what may happen. If it's meant to be, eveything will just fall into place.