[Jonah1717]

My situation is almost similar. I have been with my best friend with almost two or three years. At first, I Never had any such feelings for her, actually I was going for this other girl when I first met with my best friend. But that didn't really work out too well.
Then after a while, I kind of help her a little to go out with this other friend of mine who asked her out. And now they are dating. But some time after they started dating, I realized that I was in love with her.. soon she found out about it (I told her) and asked me to move on and stop fall for her because she doesn't want to see me get hurt as she was already dating someone and feels he is the one..
But I was persistent and told her that I will always love her even if we be together or not, and me saying that seemed to hurt a lot more.
Now, things are a mess. We get into fights a lot. But there are also the good times, which doesn't really last long as she soon feels guilty and thinks that I am doing all these just because I love her and not because I am her best friend. She sees me as a completely different person these days.. So I proposed that we take a break from each other for a while, and today is the second day and I miss her a lot! I don't know what to do anymore.. any suggestions?

[Homegirl 50]

You had no right telling her you loved her once she had a boyfriend. That was your problem and you made it hers.
She told you to move on and you didn't. She told you again and you persisted, you have the mess you're in now. Get a clue, move on!

[Jonah1717]

I kind of forgot to mention that she too has some feelings towards me (she herself told me that) but as I said, she asked me to move on even when she feels for me. I mean, won't it be wrong?

[ITstudent2006]

Everyone is human. You cannot help who you have "feelings" for. It's the acting on those feelings that divide the good and bad in morality.

Sounds to me like she's got a good set and you don't have any.

Move on bud. Let her do her thing.

[Jonah1717]

Everyone is human. You cannot help who you have "feelings" for. Its the acting on those feelings that divide the good and bad in morality.

Sounds to me like she's got a good set and you don't have any.

Move on bud. Let her do her thing.

You know, honestly, I thought of moving on so many times... The only reason I hadn't is because I believe I will be hurting her if I did and also I fear I will loose her and the love I have for her forever... Those fear alone stops me from moving on... do you still think I should move on, risking all that?

[Homegirl 50]

You are not moving on because you don't want to.
You are doing more harm to her by persisting when she has asked you to leave her alone. Stop being selfish and leave this girl alone.

[Jonah1717]

Hmmm...

You know, I can't believe I am saying this, but I guess you are right. It is time for me to move on. Even so, that one year of my life was the best time that I have ever experienced; feeling all that for another person... and I truly did love her, I believe. I wonder if I can even forget that feeling whenever I saw her face... and talked with her... I do feel like crying, yet I just smile every time I think of her...

But, you people are right I guess, I have been doing her more harm... it is time to end my stubbornness...

Thanks for taking your time and helping me. I really appreciate it..

[Homegirl 50]

You're welcome.
I wish you well