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    tryingtobehappy Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 13, 2012, 06:27 AM
    In love but can't get other guy out of my mind
    So... I have a dilema. I know I'm in love with my boyfriend. We have been dating for about two years. But there is this other guy. I know it sounds so cliché but the reality is that if you have been in my predicament, then you'll know how confusing this next part is. My boyfriend makes me feel so loved but so does this other guy. The other guy is very intuned to my feelings and knows me so well... down to when I'm upset and when I'm stressed out.

    I have tried countless times to get rid of the guy in my mind... you know... put him the friend category but I keep falling back. The funny thing is that he doesn't pressure me into doing anything... he's just always there for me. He's almost become my best friend but I have a feeling deep down inside that he's just waiting for me to make a move.

    I know he has a girl friend... and I have a boyfriend... I'm definitely not the cheating kind... so we have never done anything besides hang out here and there. I don't know what to do...

    Every time I ask him about his girlfriend (to make the reality of us not being together real in my head) he ignores it and moves onto something else.

    Did we just create some kind of universe where there are no strings attached?.

    How do I get him out of my mind?

    I guess I should let you know that I work with the guy... so I see him more than I see my boyfriend... maybe that's why I like him so much...
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    Aug 13, 2012, 06:49 AM
    Does your boyfriend know you hang out with this guy "here and there". If he doesn't, then guess what, you're a cheater. How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend was hanging out with some girl from work behind your back and not telling you.

    You don't love your boyfriend, not truly, if you have to seek what is missing in the relationship elsewhere instead of facing it together. You might as well have already left him because you're just wasting your boyfriends time now.

    I think you need to sit down and decide what is it that you want. You might think all of these nice things about this other guy, but he's also cheating on his girlfriend. So what makes you think he won't do the same to you? He might not be pressuring you to do anything, but from the way it's going he may not have to.
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    Aug 13, 2012, 07:31 AM
    Thank you... this is just what I needed. Kick in the butt to get me doing the right thing.

    Appreciate the help!
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    Aug 13, 2012, 07:38 PM
    I think you are with your boyfriend because you are not sure if this other guy will stick with you because he has a girlfriend. My prediction is if he breaks up with his girlfriend whether you are the reason your current boyfriend is gone and will be here as the next thread starter. You should really think hard about this as there are 2 relationships that will be affected, be selfless
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    Aug 13, 2012, 07:41 PM
    If you can't get this guy out of your mind, you are not truly in love.

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