[pinkbutterfly23]

Hi there everyone... I would like your opinions on a difficult situation. I have been married to my husband for 3yrs. We both have children , mine are married with families of their own but we do have my husbands 18 yr daughter living with us. I CAN NOT understand how my hubby will stick up for her , let her do as she wants buy her what she wants . He will not form any sort of disciple or house rules especially on her behaviour towards me... I can not ask her to do anything or even voice an opinion in my own home with anything that is going on she just cries and run upstairs. I have to ask him to ask her to take her clothes upstairs , bring her plates down etc.. If I ask, her all the time she's say's am picking on her. I know my hubby finds it hard to accept that she is a 18yr young woman but he treats her like a baby still. She manipulates him even though he his extremely tired from work. Every time we have a argument he will not let me get my feelings/point across and my step-daughter keeps saying to her father if she don't go I will. At that point my husbands just goes to bits... He really hates it if his daughter does not talk to him. I feel both of them do not respect me and treat me like some monester. I have read loads on the wicked step-mom but it isn't always the case. Some of us do really try. My husband is stuck in the middle and I feel for him, I keep wondering should I leave.. get divorced. The stress and tension is terrible its not a nice house to live in... Thanxs!!

[santhalus]

Maybe you should consider family therapy