[Mel_reinhart]

7 years ago when my husband and I were dating,I caught tranny porn on his computer. When I confronted him about it, his explanation was it popped up while looking at straight porn. And he admitted to clicking on a couple other tranny videos because he found it a "trip" and never seen that stuff before and he was more like "wtf" and stopped watching and didn't watch it again. Now 7 years later we are married with a 2 year old child. This entire time there has been zero sign of my husband being gay. Until last summer I found naked pictures of himself wearing my thong and bending over showing his butt. Also found pictures of an object simulating a in his mouth. He apologized and cried and begged to take him back. He cried how me and his daughter mean the world to him and he was stupid and curious and it was his first time and he never did it again. For the sake of our daughter I eventually took him back. Now a year later I found another set of similar photos. He again apologized and cried and this time said how disgusted he felt of himself. He said he's embarrassed and ashamed of his actions.
At this point I'm numb, he can't hurt anymore. I begged him to come out with the truth, told him I didn't care but for the sake of our child tell me the truth now. He's denying he's gay to his grave and I don't know what to do.
He said he wants to be family.
Fyi, he's always been really good in bed and he loves going down on me. In public he kisses me and holds me. Introduces me to all his friends.
Should I have hope that he's not gay and keep trying for our child?

[MsQuest]

I am bi myself. I was born that way, I was ashamed and tried my hardest to hide it.. But I always have been attracted to both sexes as long as I could remember... I've heard of people being bi curious but in my case, the only reason I was curious about things was because I wanted to know more about that topic... because I was bi. My family is very old fashioned so I have alIways kept it a secret. The only person I have told was my boyfriend which was my best friend at first. He understands and we talked about it openly.. Maybe if you talk to him and keep a open mind he will be open with you about everything. My boyfriend and I have been going out for three years and been friends since middle school, do we basically grew up together. Are communication is great bacause we are open with each other. Being open will allow both of you to be open, and if you get angered and attack your partner when finding something odd, you will only push him to think you are against him. Talk it out, ask curious questions.. Be open. It might hurt you but I promise it will bring you closer. Good luck, hope I helped you a little.

[Fr_Chuck]

First you are appearing to make it one or the other,

Bi, he can enjoy or want sex from either men or women. But once in a committed relationship it is not a reason to have sex with others.

Cross dressing or other Transgender dressing. They just like to dress up in women's clothes, often underwear. Next why should he have to "beg for you to take him back ? You did not just leave him over this ? So he has some different sexual desires or things he likes, he has keep them to his self and gives you a good life and sex life it sounds like.

So he perhaps likes to cross dress in women's underwear and has some bi sexual thoughts, sorry but if he was completely straight he would be in the bathroom or bed room masterbating thinking about the cheer leaders or some porn star. What is the difference really, if he is not cheating on you.