[chrisbo147]

hey guys, at the moment I am really confused and need help and advice of my previous relationship can't seem to hit the nail on the head on what happened here goes... I have been in a relationship for 4 years and we lived together for 8 months in a flat my fiancée at the time... she then wanted to move out to her parents with me living there too just temporary while we find another place... anyway months down the line things what happened in the bedroom didn't happen... and tried to find out why and she said sex didn't do anything for her this really confused me beacause we never had this problem... and she lost her engagement ring which was very random bare in mind this was happening over the months we moved in with her parents... till the last weeks of our relationship she said it will be best if I moved back to my parents house she said she stilled loved me as much as she does and thought it will be best... I just said fair enough as the old saying goes absence makes the heart grow fonder I was wrong!. I saw her only twice a week and when I went to see her and gave her a hug she verbly pushed me away by saying give me space... and when I sat on the sofa she never sat next to me she either sat on the window sill or sat on the other sofa... I knew something was wrong but she never let on or looked down about things she was happy... this is what confused me... and found out the hard way that she didn't want to be engaged with me anymore and just wanted a relationship with me... I found this out on her phone in her texts to her friend... and her mate was egging her on to change her relationship status on Facebook this made me feel awful and angry I did everything I could for her and we were going backwards
and she started going out with her friend more every Tuesday she will go to the pub and every other weekend to town... and I had no choice and finished the relationship I felt I was backed up in a corner I don't know if I did the right thing... but after I did that we were texting each other more and that soon died down and about month after we broke up she was seen at the shopping centre holding hands with someone else... now I don't know if she had him lined up while she was with me but there was no signs of her seeing someone else... I try emailing her now and again to see how she is and get no response so I've just gived up... I just need someone to tell me if they have had the same experience and best advice
cheers guys
sorry for the long paragraph

[NeedSomeHelp123]

Wow I am seriously so sorry to hear that story. So sad! But I went through something a bit like this, except we weren't engaged we were just in a relationship. We had been going out for 3 years when he started acting very strange, not laughing at jokes, generally not being very interested in what I had to say etc. He then dumped me and I found out that 3 days after we had broken up he had found someone else. I personally think he already had her lined up before we broke up as she had just broken up with her boyfriend a week before us. There is nothing you can really do if she is ignoring you mails etc. Leave her alone to let her realise you do not want anything to do with her anymore because the way she is treating you is digusting really! Just leave her and move on with your life is the best advice I could give you

[chrisbo147]

I'm sorry to hear that but within a space of 3 days he was with someone else that tells me he was seeing someone definitely and probably didn't know how to tell you... guilty conscious for you... and your mind you think what have I done to deserve this... after a year we were going out she tuned round to me and said she didn't know if she wanted me or a single life bare in mind she was texting a lad at that time who was a so called friend and yeah I saw the texts that he sent her wish I never did... and we went on a break for a bit and week after they slept with each other I called it a day then... but 2 months later she begged to have me back so I accepted and we were OK for the next 3 years trust was a bit out of the window but I just has to rebuild that... but on our last days of the relationship this year... she never liked sleeping at my house and when she did she had a back facing me and when I stroked her arm or her back in bed she would violently shrug and snap at me saying I don't like been stroked too much I just thought... whats point :/
I kind of regret taking her back first time round to be honest

[chrisbo147]

will there be anyway getting her back guys? Or is that an impossibility

oh one more thing I forgot to mention guys when I picked up my ex (we was still together then) from a night out in town she randomly started crying and she said she missed me and that... is this a sign of guilty conscious?