[eyescream435]

This guy... we'll call him Jason.. and I have been dating for almost three years now. Technically we're engaged, and have been for the last year and a half. Throughout our relationship I have had this nagging feeling that I wasn't happy but I could not put my finger on it. He truly is a really great guy: intelligent, hard-working, a fantastic listener, compassionate, willing to work on the things that annoy me, romantic, great cook, good with cars and electronics, responsible, would/will make an excellent father some day, great in bed! very attractive, etc. My problem lies in the fact that we don't really make each other laugh. We laugh together.. if we're with people who are funny, or watching a movie or a comedian who is funny.. but we don't really make each other laugh. We have several things in common, we enjoy a lot of the same stuff, we hardly fight over anything that is worth dwelling on - but.. I feel like the connection is lacking.

On the other hand, I've never been exactly a "happy-go-lucky" type of girl and I'm not certain if my insecurities and perhaps depressed line of thinking is being projected onto this relationship. Maybe I'm not allowing myself to be happy with him because I'm unhappy with myself? And if that's the case, how does one work through something like that? Or maybe my gut instinct is right and a person (namely myself) shouldn't be having to question "Am I happy?" periodically throughout a relationship.

Is it me.. or is it 'us'?

I don't want to hurt him but I also don't want to continue through the motions of a relationship just because I'm comfortable. For these reasons, I basically ended it earlier today - without a fight, just talking - and since then I don't feel sad, nor do I feel happy. I'm not feeling nervous or anxious but I also don't feel a sense of relief either. I just feel lost, confused and uncertain.

[mmresd]

Wait for it to sink in, but if you don't feel anything then that is GREAT... move on and find someone who you actually feel something for, no point in being in a dull relationship of which you are indifferent about.