Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Micah Hopwood's Avatar
    Micah Hopwood Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Jun 20, 2012, 12:14 PM
    I filed for child support but we have agreed on joint custody.. PLEASE HELP!
    About a month ago I filled for child support afraid my spouse would do it in our later years, causing me to receive back child support.

    The process is not yet finished (or even started, for that matter. We have a meeting scheduled next week.) and we have talked about it and agreed to have joint custody over my daughter. My spouse has no desire to be attached to my finances; only for my to be an active member in my daughters life. (physically, financially and emotionally)

    Is there a way we can do this where neither parties have to pay child support even though I have already filled for child support?
    JudyKayTee's Avatar
    JudyKayTee Posts: 46,503, Reputation: 4600
    Uber Member
    		  
    #2

    Jun 20, 2012, 12:45 PM
    In my State - NY - you can withdraw your petition BUT it is not recommended. If he does not comply with the agreement you could have problems. A Court Order can be enforced; an agreement between the two of you cannot.

    If the Court is going to decide custody it will want to decide support.

    I don't know what you mean about the father not wanting to be attached to your finances - he has a duty to suppor this child. On the other hand if she spends more time with him you have a duty to support the child.
    smoothy's Avatar
    smoothy Posts: 25,490, Reputation: 2853
    Uber Member
    		  
    #3

    Jun 20, 2012, 12:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Micah Hopwood View Post
    About a month ago I filled for child support afraid my spouse would do it in our later years, causing me to receive back child support.

    The process is not yet finished (or even started, for that matter. We have a meeting scheduled next week.) and we have talked about it and agreed to have joint custody over my daughter. My spouse has no desire to be attached to my finances; only for my to be an active member in my daughters life. (physically, financially and emotionally)

    Is there a way we can do this where neither parties have to pay child support even though I have already filled for child support?
    Your lawyer and her lawyer make that part of the custody order... approved by the court... or someone might get greedy years down the road.
    Micah Hopwood's Avatar
    Micah Hopwood Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #4

    Jun 20, 2012, 12:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    In my State - NY - you can withdraw your petition BUT it is not recommended. If he does not comply with the agreement you could have problems. A Court Order can be enforced; an agreement between the two of you cannot.

    If the Court is going to decide custody it will want to decide support.

    I don't know what you mean about the father not wanting to be attached to your finances - he has a duty to suppor this child. On the other hand if she spends more time with him you have a duty to support the child.
    I am the father.. The mother is the one who keeps my daughter but I want to keep her just the same.. I visit her almost everyday that's why I want to just get joint custody.. Her mother has agreed (seeing my desire to be a part of my daughters life).. and she also has stated she is not after me financially.. she only wants me to remain in my daughters life..

    Sorry for not being clear..

    Also, we are in Tx..
    JudyKayTee's Avatar
    JudyKayTee Posts: 46,503, Reputation: 4600
    Uber Member
    		  
    #5

    Jun 20, 2012, 12:54 PM
    I think it's a bad idea - things are good between you now but in the future - ? Who knows.

    Where is the daughter going to live? That's who has custody, not the person who visits.

    I wish I knew more of these "side" arrangements that worked out but somehow they always seem to be a problem.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Served with Child Support papers, but we have agreed upon joint custody - Florida [ 1 Answers ]

I was served with child support papers today, but the mother of my son and I have decided upon joint custody. We are not married. I have him one week, and she has him the other week and so on. I already pay for all of his needs (diapers, clothes, etc.) as well as even many of her living expenses. ...

Joint custody, no child support? [ 10 Answers ]

My wife and I are going to get a divorce. We are amicable and agreeable. We have a 3 year old son and have decided and agreed on joint physical custoday. We have also agreed on neither spouse paying child support. We plan to spilt daycare and other costs and I will maintain health insurance. If...

Joint custody child support [ 49 Answers ]

My ex husband and I have been divorced almost 4 years now and he hired an attorney to handle our divorce since I couldn't afford one. We had three children in this marriage and we both agreed to joint physical and 50-50 shared custody of the children. We both have worked together for the last few...

Child support joint custody [ 2 Answers ]

We have joint custody with me having primary physical custody. My ex husband does not have a child support order in place. I would like to apply for one but have heard that you can't get child support with a joint custody order? And do I have to have a lawyer for this? He lives in another state...

Joint custody/Child support [ 3 Answers ]

Hello all, I live in CA and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. His divorce was finalized 8/26/04 and his ex remarried 2 days later. Throughout all the court battles for custody, schooling, and child support he had to pay her $600 a month for alimony (they were only married 6 years) and...

View more questions Search