[Mark1981]

HI, I recently broke up with my ex, 1 week ago and I'm shattered, depressed etc. etc.
We had an argument about her going out clubbing. She's a party girl. Which is fine and I would never stop her from doing anything, but she went out 3 days running and said she'd like to go out for a fourth night. Well this is where I said she was taking the piss a little. It didn't go down well. She broke it off which sounds a bit pathetic I know. Anyway 3 days later she rings me and says she was sorry and she had made a mistake. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and met up a few days later only to be greeted by a very silent and non-groveling person. I said to her that I'd started to feel better about myself and before I could explain, bang, that was it, she said it was over, she couldn't make me happy and that was that.

We were both upset and I drove off. I texted her when I got in saying I hated the way it's ended, I still wanted to sort stuff out, what we be will be and I loved her very much. No reply. Then a week later my friend uploads a photo of me on Facebook smiling and putting on a brave face, an hour later she texts me a blank screen to which I didn't reply and my friends told me today that on Facebook she wrote she had the most amazing weekend and had so much fun.

I know she loves me, and she HATES not knowing where I am, or what I'm doing. I have not text, rang, or emailed her so basically I've disappeared. I do deep down love her to pieces and want to sort things out but do I hold tight as I am or get in contact. Throughout the whole relationship I've fought and entertained arranging all kinds of things, I just don't understand if someone's loves you that much they won't fight for you. Please help.

Mark 30 London

[tickle]

Something lacking in her feelings for you and quite could be a lack of maturity seeing as she wants her own way no matter what you think. This is no way to carry on a decent caring relationship. There has to be give and take, and she is apparently not wanting to give up the clubbing. Do you feel comfortable giving her the status quo?

How old is she anyway ?

[Mark1981]

Something lacking in her feelings for you and quite possibly could be a lack of maturity seeing as she wants her own way no matter what you think. This is no way to carry on a decent caring relationship. There has to be give and take, and she is apparently not wanting to give up the clubbing. Do you feel comfortable giving her the status quo?

How old is she anyway ?

Hi tickle I'm 30 and she's 24.She told me when it all hit the fan that she's stubborn,selfish and will do whatever she wants when she wants,I know you can't be like that, it's all about give and take it just bloody hurts.All my friends say it's a maturity thing and I'm too old to be playing games,it's just if I say enoughs enough it's the whole factor of me starting again,worrying where she's going out,talking to whoever but deep down I know she's prob feeling like crap too I just know she will regret all this and by then il be over it,but I've put her on a pedestal and idolised her,maybe it's just lust or the fact I can't have her... I don't know.think I just need to listen to my head rather than my heart on this one just hate and I mean hate this gut renching pain.

[slapshot_oi]

Someone who wants to settle down would not go out clubbing four nights in a row. She sounds like she's not interested in a serious relationship, so, there's really nothing to sort out.

Break all contact. Block her on Facebook, block her phone number. Demand that your friends stop talking about her. Out of sight, out of mind.

[Mark1981]

Someone who wants to settle down would not go out clubbing four nights in a row. She sounds like she's not interested in a serious relationship, so, there's really nothing to sort out.

Break all contact. Block her on Facebook, block her phone number. Demand that your friends stop talking about her. Out of sight, out of mind.

Wow harsh but fair,just very hard when you love someone

[slapshot_oi]

Well, unless you want to be perpetually miserable, you have no other choice.

[Mark1981]

Well, unless you want to be perpetually miserable, you have no other choice.

Lol it,her loss thanks

[tickle]

Lust. Your heart isn't between your legs, it is located somewhere on the left side of your upper chest (just kidding, Mark). No, but honestly, is this what you expect out of the rest of your relationship? Some women never grow up. Oh, I am quite sure she would make herself available to you if she thought she would get something out of it.

Play an old game, Mark, make yourself scarce for a while until she comes looking for you.

You say she feels back, down deep, but my guess is only until she gets to the club with her friends, then she forgets all about it.

[Mark1981]

Lust. Your heart isnt between your legs, it is located somewhere on the left side of your upper chest (just kidding, Mark). No, but honestly, is this what you expect out of the rest of your relationship? Some women never grow up. Oh, I am quite sure she would make herself available to you if she thought she would get something out of it.

Play an old game, Mark, make yourself scarce for a while until she comes looking for you.

You say she feels back, down deep, but my guess is only until she gets to the club with her friends, then she forgets all about it.

Thanks tickle you really know how to make me feel better lol.
I'm making myself scarce don't worry I made the desperate begging mistake in my last relationship and from then on I said if the sxxt hit the fan I would go no contact.I told her when we first got together that if she hurt me then I would disappear and to be fair she has treated me bad and used me and it was always me trying to repair it.only when she knew I wasn't coming back would she then contact me.Anyway one day she will regret it,she's been treated like dirt in her previous relationships and I treated her so well but sometimes it felt like I was trying to flog a dead horse.But I will disappear from her life I think it's the only way il get over her