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    Jun 10, 2012, 04:09 PM
    I think my boyfriend is gay
    OK not sure if anyone out there can help me. I am 40 and my partner is 52. This is a second relationship for both of us. We are going on 4 years and our sex life has been in the crapper for about 18 months. We only have sex on average once every 2 weeks or less; and its not for lack of interest on my part, but I often get turned down when I try to initiate sex and a person can only take some much rejection. My boyfriend is either not attracted to me anymore or he's gay. Now the facts are I've gained 10 pounds since we've moved in together which was a little over 2 years ago, but my partner has also revealed that he is a cuckold and enjoys the idea of participating in sex with another man. I've indulged his fetch once or twice.. even watched while he sucked on another guys cock. I've discovered that whole idea is disturbing to me and I actually think he might be gay but just doesn't want to admit it. CAN ANYONE OUT THERE HELP ME?
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    Jun 10, 2012, 04:38 PM
    Maybe not gay but at least bi... anyway, there is no way for us to tell if he's gay... you would know that better than us.

    And what if he is gay? How will that change things between you? Maybe you need to sit down and talk to him and see what's going on.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 04:56 PM
    He most certainly likes having sex with me, so he is at least bi, to be gay, he would not want to be with women and only do it as a front.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 05:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    He most certainly likes having sex with me
    Fr_Chuck! Is there something about you that you're not telling us? :)
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    Jun 10, 2012, 07:28 PM
    If the situation is not satisfactory to you, why do you stay? Sounds to me like he is gay and just does not want to admit it.
    There are a lot of men who have been with women because they don't want to admit what they are.
    I'd leave him. Life is too short and I would not beg a man for sex nor would I indulge one by letting him have sex with another man.
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